(Closed) BM’s new tattoo

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
2143 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think it’s a lack of courtesy that she didn’t tell you. Just because you are a bride doesn’t mean you get to dictate what goes on her body either. If you really really want it covered, then you SHOULD consider paying to have it covered, because it’s your own personal wish. I don’t think it’s a big deal though. I just recently got a tattoo that would possibly be visible in a dress (on my back), but I wouldn’t be offended if a bride asked me to cover it for the photos. However, I would have been BEYOND peeved if the bride thought it was my job to ask her for her permission, and I would drop out of the wedding if I found out. My sister pierced her lip (kind of, area above the lip) a month before the wedding. My mom cared more than I did. The way someone in your wedding party looks won’t relfect poorly on you, it reflects on that person.

Post # 33
205 posts
Helper bee

 It’s really not a big deal it’s her body. Are you ashamed to have her stand up in your wedding now? People aren’t going to be focused on her anyway it’s your big day and everyone will be looking at you.

Post # 34
1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

She probably didn’t mention it because she didn’t even think about it. Only brides think about that kind of stuff. She’s a grown up and doesn’t need permission. If I were you, I’d let it go – no point worrying about stuff you have no control over.

If it’s that big a deal you can always photoshop it out, but don’t let it ruin your day. Hopefully you’ll have bigger stuff to think about on your WEDDING DAY than your sister in law’s new tattoo.

Post # 35
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I get where you’re coming from and I’d be irritated to.  However, it is her body and if she wants to get visible tattoos she can.  My advice is, if she can’t cover it up with make-up for whatever reason, just have the photographer photoshop the tattoo out.  I’ve had to do that several times in photoshop for various reasons.  Generally speaking it’s pretty easy to do.

Post # 36
19 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

I guess I’m an odd one, I have a couple girls with tattoos and I will have coverup for them to use. Call me old fashioned, but I don’t want any tattoos showing on my wedding day, I have some but they are inplaces that are easily covered by clothing.

And Iv’e already talked to my girls about it, and none of them are offened or could care less that I want them to cover thier tattoos

Post # 37
1220 posts
Bumble bee

post a picture of her tattoo im intrested in seeing it..

 I have a huge tattoo on my arm and im not covering it but to each its own..


Post # 38
1154 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’ll make your pictures prettier.  I’m kind of jealous of people whose bridesmaids/groomsmen have tatoos,  But I love tatoos.

Post # 39
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t ask her to cover it up but what about asking her to wear her hair down for the day if her hair is long enough? I know it isn’t what you had imagined your pictures to be like, but it probably won’t be that bad and I don’t think everyone else will notice either.

Post # 40
5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think the day of the wedding you weill have bigger things to worry about than the Bridesmaid or Best Man with a new tattoo. I’d just let it go. = )

Post # 41
7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with the other ladies. It’s her body, she can do what she wants with it. Her life does not revolve around your wedding, so she probably didn’t even think to mention it. She does not have to ask you or get your permission. My Maid/Matron of Honor has a big celtic knot piece on her shoulder blade and another on her upper arm. My girls are in dresses that will show both of them.

I agree with photoshop. Photo editing is a wonderful thing.

Just let it go.

Post # 42
226 posts
Helper bee

How does your fiance feel about it? If it really bothers both of you then perhaps he could talk to her about it. I dont have any tattoos but if I did I would not be offended if I was asked to cover them for a wedding. Just like if I was a bm and 3 weeks from the weddign i colored my hair blue… I wouldnt be suprised if the bride got a bit ticked off.

Good luck! Just remember she is going to be your sister now so treat her like you would want her to treat you.

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