Post # 1
So 3 of my 4 BMs are coming to the wedding solo – 2 are engaged 2 are co-habitating. The SO’s were all invited, by name, on the invites. They’ve opted not to bring them as they won’t really know people at the wedding (i don’t know them very well, 1 I’ve never met) and the girls want to be able to spend time with me wihtout feeling guilty for abandoning their SO’s. I don’t know if I’m happy or sad about this….What do you think?
Post # 2
Most people seem to feel the same way I do – it’s totally up to them but it’ll definitely make things easier!!
Post # 3
I think it’s actually thoughtful of them in both regards – 1) They aren’t making their SO’s sit with people they don’t know at an event that they’re not particularly invested in and 2) they are going to be focused on you, supportive and not distracted.
What about talking to them about having their SO’s come after the formalities of the reception are over when they’ll actually be able to be with your BM’s and they could spend some time with you and your husband as well??
Post # 4
Personally, I’d be a bit worried if my Bridesmaid or Best Man brought a significant other – she’s only 8 years old!
I agree with CaboBride2015, it is very thoughtful of them. I’ve left my Fiance at home on more than one occasion to save him from the unknown, haha. I’m sure you’ll get to meet their SO’s in due course, but it’s lovely of them to want to focus solely on you and your day – you must mean a lot to them! 🙂
Post # 5
I wish I had done that for my best friends wedding. My SO was miserable the whole time.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t care. I was in a wedding in July in another state that my husband of course was invited to but we decided he would not come. I spent my entire 4 days there doing a shower, a bachelorette party, a rehearsal dinner, getting ready and going to the wedding, etc… He would have been hanging out doing random stuff with my mom and would have been completely miserable. I also would have hardly seen him if at all, until the day of the wedding. Sometimes it’s just easier to do those things without a date when you’re actually IN the wedding party especially if your SO doesn’t know people. It’s a huge job.
Post # 7
I think thats a nice thing for them to do for you. And honestly, it wsa probably mostly the guys’ decisions. they would probably much raather be lazy at home tahn surrounded by strangers!
Only 1 of my bridesmaids had a SO, and he came with her parents. While we were taking pictures they got some really cute ones, so I’m glad he was there! I actually invited the parents of all my bridesmaids, as they’re all pretty much my other families.
Post # 8
MsGinkgo: Why would you be sad? I can see all of the upsides but there are no down sides…
Post # 9
playdohpants: I like these guys – I want them to come, but I agree, I see mostly upside!
MelissaMajoria: lol, an 8 year old with a date would be funny
JustMe12182: I was miserable for most of a wedding that FH was in a few years ago and I knew the couple and several people there (but the couple decided to sit me with strangers instead of the people I knew…)
Tigerlilybride: The more I think about it, the happier I am.
Post # 10
MsGinkgo: Oh that’s good. 🙂 I thought you didn’t know them at all…I see now it was only 1 that you haven’t met
Post # 11
I once went to a wedding where my partner at the time was the best man. I knew no one else, and it was in a different state. We were there for 3 days and I barely saw him, and was just stuck with the bride doing helping things the whole time. It wasn’t terrible but I wouldn’t do it again…
I think it’s a good decision by your bridesmaids – I know I’d hate worrying about how bored my SO would be when I could just be enjoying myself!
Post # 12
it would definitely make it easier!
Post # 13
I didn’t bring my Fiance to a wedding in Chicago that I was a bridesmaid in. We had the bachelorette one night, the rehearsal dinner the next, and the wedding the next day, I knew there would be a head table without dates, and I knew the other girls but he didn’t know anyone.
I figured bringing him would sort of be a waste of money. He wouldn’t have been happy sitting by himself at a wedding where he knew no one! Also… flights. Anyhow, it was fun – two other girls also didn’t bring their dates, we had a fun time!