(Closed) Body image & dress regret

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3783 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@nmsa:  Sorry, but I think you’re absolutely out of your mind. That dress is amazing and you look fantastic in it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I see no muffin bottom.  The dress fits you perfectly.  You are a beautiful bride.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I think you are thin.  I don’t think this particular dress “is the one” for you if you aren’t feeling it.  Have you tried on mermaid or stealth dresses? i think you’d look absolutely amazing in those types of dresses.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I see what you are referring to but I don’t think it looks like a muffin bottom…it looks like you have hips. Like a woman should have. Your waist is teeny tiny and your hips SHOULD be bigger than your waist.

Don’t freak….you look beautiful in it. Were you wearing any support underneath it? Shapers do amazing things if you are really that concerned about it and just want to smooth it out a bit.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As someone recovering from an eating disorder, I completely understand where you are coming from. I can also say that you are imagining things. 

You are stunning in that dress. 

I know how real it feels to you. I know that you do actually see the things that you are describing, but I PROMISE you that they are not there.

The only thing that helped me get rid of my body dismorphia (not get rid of it, but help it at least) was eating more.

You look beautiful in that dress.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I know it’s hard because we perceive ourselves differently than others do.
I can say with 100% total honesty that you look beautiful in your gown. There is no Muffin top. 
I wish my arms looked that great in my strapless dress! Yours look toned and slender. 

Pulling the sash up about a 1/4 of an inch might make it sit more comfortably on you if you feel like it’s cutting into your hip area. Everyone waist is at a different spot. You can wear that dress proudly!

 

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@nmsa:  I absolutely love the lace on that Justin Alexander, but I always thought the waistband was a little low on everyone. How is the dress constructed? Is there any way to remove the waistband, move it up, or at least remove the bottom portion of it?

FWIW, I don’t think it makes you look flabby or anything like that. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I won’t feed into this because it’s not healthy and soliciting compliments from strangers on the internet won’t help. I’m not trying to be snarky (and I’m recovering from an ED), but maybe you should look into therapy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I will say the issues you are having with the waistband of the dress are due to the way the dress is designed to be and has absolutely nothing to do with your body. Undergarments won’t change that.

 

 At the end of the day, it’s just a dress and it’s just a body. Neither define who you are.

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You look absolutely gorgeous!!!! And for what it’s worth, you look super thin, fit and toned in that dress. I would NEVER look at that picture and think that you were self-conscious about the way that you look. I know most girls have a hang up about one thing or another, but you REALLY look beautiful. I really see no issues with the things that you have mentioned.

I am a really decisive person, and I was shocked that I was plagued with anxiety over my dress choice after the fact. I think there is often more going on with dress regret than just anxiety about the dress itself.  Weddings are huge emotional events, being the center of attention is not for everyone, and there is a ton of pressure put on brides by friends, family, and society to look flawless. The dress really forced me to think and stress about all of those things. That said, once I had it altered and put it on at my last fitting, I loved it.

Hopefully you will have the same experience! In the meantime, try to cut yourself a break! You have a rocking body and that dress really suits you! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It looks like it’s the dress, not you. I don’t think the one custom made in your size will be bunched up like that. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@nmsa: You obviously have anxiety about this, so I am going to answer based on that. Other people’s opinions won’t silence the voice in your head (I’ve been there too). You have a year – that’s a long time. If there are areas you want to target, you have plenty of time to make a plan and feel great about your body. If you feel like this about everything you wear, maybe it’s a self-esteem issue that runs deeper. But if it’s legitimately about the dress, then there are plenty of workouts you can do that will make you feel better about your body, and about yourself too 🙂

(FYI, I do not see any of the problems that you mentioned – but what matters is that you see them).  

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nmsa:  You are waaayyy to hard on yourself! That dress looks great on you! Stop looking for flaws and just embrace the fact that you found the perfect dress!

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