(Closed) Body Image Issues

posted 6 years ago in September 2013
Post # 3
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am totally with you. I am so afraid to try on dresses because I have gained so much weight. We are the same height and I weigh around 250 right now. At the beginning of the year I lost 65 pounds and was super comfortable. Small waist cute shape, then i started eatting horribly again, then I got engaged and just started eating everything in sight. Since the summer I have gained 55 pounds and I feel so bad about the way I look. I want to lose weight for my health and my two boys. And I don’t want to be a fat bride. I want to be a healthy person. I am an emotional eater and planning this wedding is already stressing me out. I have decided to try weight watchers again. That is how I lost the weight earlier. 

Even when I did lose weight Istill felt like the fat girl. What helped me was my before and after picture that I put in my closet. 

Post # 4
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5001 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t really have a lot of advice, but your post made me tear up so I wanted to respond. First of all, congratulations on the amazing weight loss, you should be so proud! I have had body image issues in the past and have close family and friends with weight problems so I sort of understand how you feel, though I didn’t have issues with dress shopping. I think part of the problem is you just haven’t found your dress yet! Once you have on that beautiful dress, hair and makeup, veil, and have your Fiance staring at you on your wedding day, you will definitely feel beautiful! The only way that I got over my body/eating issues was therapy, so I would definitely recommend finding someone to talk to about this. You can really change a lot in a year, so you have plenty of time. I’m a “fixer” type person and I figure therapy can (almost) never hurt, but often really changes peoples’ lives, so I’d give it a shot. Good luck!

Post # 5
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341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your weight loss is amazing and you should be so proud of the weight you have lost!  I think that most women to some extent have their own body issues, or things they would change about themselves physically even if to you they seem “perfect”.  I struggled with this in highschool and I was in no way big, I was 5’7 and at my lowest weighed about 107 pounds.  It was very un healthy.  I finaly realized that my body is ment to have curves and started to look up to women like scarlette johanson and marylin monroe and stopped comparing myself to my super thin friends.  I dont feel like there is any one way to really get through it, but I have found that focusing on what you LOVE about your body goes a long way.  And if your unsure of what will look good on you, find someone who has a similar body type to you and see what cuts and styles you like best on them.  Not every dress is going to fit you perfectly, but I know you will find an amazing dress that makes you feel beautiful and confident!

Post # 6
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8488 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

It can take time for your brain to catch up with you new body.  If you’re young, your skin may firm back up on it’s own if you work out dilligently.  

Arms are tough.  Sometimes surgery is the ultimate answer.  They can do a mini arm lift now.

Bariatric surgeons have to deal with the emotional aspects of large weight loss.  Counseling is definitely in order.

i just went thru a 50 lb weight loss myself and I’m in therapy for anxiety and depression, but my weight is an issue, according to my therapist.  She’s worried that because of my body image issues, I won’t stop losing.

There’s a problem I never thought I’d have.  But, she’s right so far.  She told me to quit dieting and thus far, I haven’t been able to.

Post # 7
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congrats on your weight-loss success, first off!  My weight has gone up and down over the years, and I’ve had a baby, so I understand what you mean about seeing a larger image of yourself in the mirror.  It took me YEARS at a lower weight to finally accept that I was no longer as large as I used to be.  Even now, at a size 0/2, I still have places that seem large to me, because I’m picturing what I used to see.  Plus, there is loose skin to hide.  Unless you are willing to look into surgery to have the loose skin removed, shapewear is going to be your new best friend.  See if you can find a good shaping slip or corset to help with the overall contour.  You will see the curves but not the bits that bother you.  This will make wedding dress shopping so much easier.  You’ve been putting in the effort, and seeing the changes, but now it’s time to come to terms with what you can’t control.  You are strong and beautiful and your body/skin tells the story of how hard you’ve worked.  This picture/quote from pinterest says it all:

Post # 8
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2448 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have always been normal or underweight but i had surgery on my back and i feel like i have the shortest torso ever which looks squat with my long legs. unfortunately the dress i chose will likely highlight that so i have to wear a corset and spanx to give some illusion of a waist. not fun and i’m very self-conscious about it.

Post # 9
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

For the first time in ages I’m triple kg digits i hate it. All the dresses i wanted looked like crap on me,.

 

But the one ive brought highlights my womanly figure and i love it, im learning to embrace it.  I’m lucky that despite my weight (carried belly down) i have quite smaller chest area so my strapless gown is heavily beaded to make my chest pizzaz haha.

but i am trying to hard to lose weight before th ebig day, i know if i dont I’ll be so upset.

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