Thanks to everyone who has commented so far!
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Thanks ladies, I have definitely been where you are, and it’s not a fun place to be. In fact, it’s pretty soul destroying. In my experience, dislike/hatred of yourself is one of the worst motivators. I constantly wanted to lose weight to “look better”, and even seriously entertained the idea of cosmetic surgery because I thought that I was worthless if I wasn’t attractive. Even after I lost a substantial amount of weight I didn’t feel good enough, because you can never feel good enough when you’re constantly criticizing and picking on yourself.
I am now at a place where I love and appreciate my body for what it is, and what it enables me to do. I by no means think it’s perfect, but I no longer allow my self-worth to be determined by my appearence. A pp said “my body does wonderful things for me and I’m incredibly fortunate to be as healthy as I am”, which is pretty much exacty what I think on a daily basis. Even if I’m not at peak health, I make an effort to appreciate what I do have, while making steps to improve it where possible, because I value and care about myself rather than because I hate myself.
Some things that helped me include:
- Catching myself every time I found myself saying/thinking something cruel about myself, reminding myself that whatever I said wasn’t true (even if I didn’t believe it at the time), and then thinking about the things I did like, with a focus on things that weren’t weight/appearence related.
- Realising that in no world would I ever speak to my loved ones that way, so why should I speak to myself that way.
- Realising that self-love isn’t literally being in love with yourself, but is actually making daily choices to be kind to yourself, care about your wellbeing and look after your health.
j9marie : linked an article, which you may find helpful – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/modern-sex/201707/how-overcome-body-shame
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Congratualtions on your eating disorder recoveries, whatever stage your are currently at. ED recovery is the most difficult but most worthwile and important thing I’ve ever done. Every time someone says they’ve decided to work on recovery, I feel so happy and excited for them.
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I absolutely love the attitudes you all have. I used to think that to love my body, I had to like every single thing about it. As we’ve all learned though, you don’t have to be perfect to value and appreciate your body and yourself. Thank you for sharing, it’s women with attitudes like yours that made me believe I could change the way I treated myself.