Post # 1
I’ve been struggling with weight issues for about a week. It started when last Saturday, I went to get the foundations (bra, girdle, whatever I needed) for my wedding dress. I ended up getting a strapless bra that is kind of a corset or something but it was at midriff. I wished I could have gotten like a one piece body suit or something… I just am not satisfied with my purchase.
I have a lot of loose skin from being formerly obese. I was obese from freshman in high school until 6 yrs ago; and I am 42 yrs old next week. That’s a long time, and my skin didn’t firm up after losing so much weight. I am ok with my weight now and pretty much like the way I look… but, I have this “thing” about bras, shirts, underwear, shapewear…. trust me when I say I have tried ALOT of shapewear! (/right now I have two drawers full!)Since my skin is “loose” (its not fat) it just takes even the slightest pressure to make it rise out and over causing a muffin top, or making it look like I have boobs on my back, or under my arms… but its not fat, but loose skin that just moves all over the place. Hey even the wind could probably move it.
Well this post has sat here all day… I couldn’t finish it. But, this evening I went to Victoria’s Secret and bought a nice padded strapless bra that felt really good. And, some pretty underwear. I saw a few other things too that I wanted, and will go back next week… I feel a little better now because earlier I was just feeling so uncomfortable, and hating my body. Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
From your lips to Buddahs ears, darling. You know, it’s so funny. We women subject ourselves to the WORST scrutiny and judgement and if you ask a guys opinion, all they see is BOOBS. I totally feel you about undergarments. I’ll give you the antithesis to it…
My ribcage is small enough and boobs big enough (natural, thank you!) to have a bra that you can’t find, at least not in the US – 29D, oh and I’m short, so basically most trendy clothing looks wretched on me. For bras, I could special order them from ridiculously expensive online stores ($120+ per) but there is no guarantee that it would actually fit since actual cup shapes aren’t universal as they grow in size. I have had to make do with 34 c – but even then, they don’t actual fit right, are not nearly as supportive as I need, and right now I am running on 2 bras because the ordeal of spending AN ENTIRE DAY trying on bras is enough to kill a girl and I can’t bring myself to do it. 2 bras. TWO BRAS. We do a lot of laundry around these parts.
I love weekends – and Fiance hates them – because I wake up on Saturday and break out the sports bras and am happy as a clam.
What is my point, you ask?…. Why is it such a bitch to be a chick??
Post # 4
I love it: Why is it such a bitch to be a chick??
It does sound like you have yourself a bad dilemma… While I’m pretty small on top too, fortunately I have enough skin to pull from left to right to cram into a B cup. LOL… (ever see the episode of the Simpsons after Homer had gastric bypass?! He used clothes pins to pull his loose skin and clip it to his backside! )
I know my family and friends (and most important my fiance) love me, and don’t care if I’m not super thin on my wedding day. Just as long as i am happy (and I am)… so I’m gonna go get married, and eat my cake too.