(Closed) Bonding with FMIL

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MrsE.ToBe : Hey, date twin! I was really intimidated by my Future Mother-In-Law before we got engaged. Then some family stress (FI’s grandpa died, and FI’s sister is not supportive of the wedding) actually brought us closer together.

Wedding planning has also really helped us bond. We don’t chat regularly on the phone, but she will call about wedding stuff. Also, Fiance and I started attending church every Saturday night with her, and then going out for dinner or going to her house where she makes dinner. I haven’t spent a lot of one-on-one time, but we did go to a bridal expo alone together.

It’s great that your Future Mother-In-Law is more accepting and a great starting point. I would find ways for the three of you (FMIL + FI) to spend time together. Those shared experiences will help you get to know her better and cultivate the relationship you’re looking for. Yay 🙂

Post # 4
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9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ll definitely be checking back on this thread.  I don’t think my Mother-In-Law dislikes me, but they live a couple hours away and we only see them every few months, so even over the last five years, I’ve only met her like 20 times… so we’re not really close.  I would never dream of just like, calling her up to chat, and Darling Husband and I just have our own cell phones, so it’s not like she would ever call our house and I would just happen to answer either.

Post # 5
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1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do either of you share any interests, like gardening, hiking or baking (ect)? Try inviting her out to do something, just the two of you.

I get along great with my Future Mother-In-Law, we’re a LOT alike. We’ve gotten along well since day 1. We text more than we call, but it’s generally for a purpose.

Post # 6
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2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsE.ToBe : Same exact story with us! I have never bonded with her so this week we are going dress shopping for her…hmm…I hope it goes well and isn’t too awkward

Post # 8
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Shopping!!  Usually we all have that in common.  Unfortunately my Mother-In-Law to be died 3 years ago so we won’t ever bond.  But I think we would have over shopping and the wedding.

Post # 9
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1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MrsE.ToBe : You are so cute! If she loves them, you can like them enough for her, haha 🙂

I think the dinner invitation is a good idea. The time I’ve spent with my Future Mother-In-Law with my Fiance actually allows me to participate in their conversation, pick up new information about her, and then follow up with interest the next time we see her.

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