(Closed) Bone Marrow Transplant (long)

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: Tacky and Greedy or Great Idea
    Tacky and Greedy : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Great Idea : (34 votes)
    89 %
  • Post # 3
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    5662 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Our own Macintosh started a website for her husband where could could donate to help with medical expenses aftewage was critically injured in a car vs bicycle accident in December. I don’t even know her and I donated without A second thought as did many other bees and I’m sure loved ones. I dont think its tacky or weird, it gives people that love your mom and don’t know how to help a way todo so. I’m not sure a benefit dinner and all that jazz is necessary, but  I don’t think it’s a horrid idea to ask people to help. 

    Im so sorry to hear about your moms struggles, I’m sure that is very hard on all of you. I hope her treatment and transplant work and that she starts feeling better soon!

    Post # 4
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    5662 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    God I hate the spell check on this website!!

    Post # 5
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    12248 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My Mom had Hodgkin’s lymphoma and had a bone marrow transpant/radiation/hospital stay. My family had a HUGE benefit to cover the miscelleneous costs of the time taken off work/transportation to NYC and back every weekend, and bills that weren’t completely covered by insurance!

     

    Post # 6
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    43 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t think it’s tacky at all. People understand that your family is in need and good people generally want to help. I have attended benefits in the past and see no issue with them. It’s up to you, but if someone asks what the money will be used for, I would answer honestly. As for the cleaning, would it be possible to have some family members/friends help out? You could make a schedule or something. That way you could save the money and use it for other things. Just a thought! 

     

    And I wish your mom all the best and for her treatment to be successful. 

    Post # 7
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    540 posts
    Busy bee

    I live in a pretty small and relatively poor community and fundraising, especially for those with medical issues going on, is HUGE here. And donating is second nature to absolutely everyone here. No one gives it a second thought,  infact people are constantly looking for opportunities to attend benefits in this community. It’s like were just going to dinner with a few hundred friends and its really fun and the money donated is a huge help.

    Post # 8
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @karmills84:  I wanted to suggest seeing if they could find a short term rental in the area instead of a hotel. They’d have a kitchen and more home-y surroundings and it woudl be a lot cheaper than a hotel. Just a thought <3 

    Post # 9
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    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Definitely not tacky. My dad had leukemia and no insurance. He got on Medicaid but couldn’t work so they were really struggling to pay bills. My sister and I had a benefit at a local bar/restaurant and raised over $6k. 

    We did a card tournament, and a 50/50 raffle. We got a ton of local businesses to donate gift cards and packages to be raffled off.

    in my opinion, when someone you love is going thru something awful like is, there’s nothing you can do to physically help them so doing something to help them financially helps you feel a little less helpless.

    praying for your mom. 

    Post # 10
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    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Not tacky at all.  I think it’s a great idea.  People have benefits all the time — those who want to help out will and will not think you’re being greedy.  Those who grumble aren’t worth the effort you’re putting into being worried.  Good luck — I hope your mama gets on a speedt road to recovery! 🙂

    Post # 11
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    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    A few months ago, my mothers best friend hosted a benefit for my mom. Even though my mom has health insurance, there are things that are costly associated with being sick that insurance does not cover. (Like the things that you said.) Especially when the illness is preventing the patient and close family from working.

    The benefit raised $10,000 for my mom for bills, health related expenses and just some piece of mind that she does have some money for emergiences. Not to mention, it was great to see all of my moms friends and family all together in the same place.

    So, I say have a benefit. Everyone (even strangers and long lost friends and family) will see it as a way to help. Have raffles, door prizes, baskets, yummy food, maybe a band.

     

    Post # 12
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    8424 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Not tacky at all. I think it’s completely fine and actually really nice of you to think ahead and plan for these expenses!! 

    Post # 13
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    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @karmills84:  I think it’s a great idea.  My boss had a fundraiser last year for her mom (she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and was undergoing chemo).  My fiance and I went to support her and her mom.  It was really nice to be able to help out, and we had a really great time.

    I can’t imagine thinking this would be tacky or greedy, though.  

    Post # 14
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    1547 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    i say go for it, why would anyone think it’s greedy? those people would be ruuude.

    Post # 15
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    1547 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @MsJ2theZ:  sorry, i dont mean to threadjack (or however it’s called), but how’s her hubby? i havent seen post from her lately, i read somewhere that he woke up and was a bit better. Do you have more info?

    Post # 16
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    5662 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Anamagana:  No I haven’t seen anything since her last update which was I believe, the day he was being transferred out of the ICU and to acute care.

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