(Closed) boob job… i really want one? any advice bees

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 47
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2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m seconding PP sentiment on not going to big. My back is in constant knots from lugging around 32G/H and has been since I was D. Partly it is how your breast tissue is arranged (closer, farther, spread out, etc) but simply it can get heavy!

If you are really set on augmentation I would say stick with V’s S sizes that they carry. If you go any further there are very few cute bras and those that are cute (and even those that aren’t) are EXPENSIVE (no more <30, I usually spend 50-80 on a good bra, sometimes more). And as it was mentioned in the other thread, clothes do fit differently. Darling Husband has had a few good laughs when he’s gone shopping with me because of the quadraboob and cup overfloweth effect that occurs.

You haven’t mentioned ribcage size as far as I can tell but that can really determine how much you can add without getting too heavy or too big/fake looking.

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I haven’t read all the comments but after I pop out my 2 desired babies I’ll probably look into a lift and a small implant (if I look like I’ve been sucked dry like my mom did Post-baby). I don’t think tthere’s anything wrong with that. Now, if you want Pam Anderson boobs I might recommend you rethink it.

My best advice is to RESEARCH RESEARCH RESEARCH!!! Find the right doctor who will do what YOU want and who comes highly recommended.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Let me chime back in by saying that again that I got implants and there is nothing wrong with me.  Meaning, that I do not need to see a therapist for my self esteem issues.  Just because a woman wants implants or any other cosmetic procedure, does not mean she has issues.  Yeah, I felt like a little girl all my life without boobs, and now I feel more like a woman.  And I look better in clothes, tops/bathing suits fit, LINGERIE fits…etc. So it did actually boost my self esteem, but that’s not why I did it.  Now, if the OP was a teenager, well, that’s a different story. 

And as some have said, don’t go too big.  But, how do you know what “too big” is?  If your doctor is good, he will recommend a size for you and listen to what you want your results to be.  I wanted to be a C cup, but not a huge looking C.  So on surgery day my doc decided to go with 325’s instead 350’s.  I am a perfect C in all VS bras and can still wear my size small tops from before my surgery.

Oh and look at before and after pics from your doctor too.  Even better if you can see his work in person (and feel them..lol).

Post # 50
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Busy Beekeeper

i really do not want ANY bees to think i am telling them specifically to go see a therapist if you want or had a boob job! i don;t know anyone on here well enough to pass those kind of judgements.

i guess i keep speaking up because i feel passionatley about these things regarding women’s self-esteems etc.   Maybe its because i work the field of eating disorders, i don’t know.

I was also really affected from watching the documentary “America The Beautiful”.  I would say that probably MOST people who want/get cosmetic surgery do NOT have any significant “issues” as we are calling it in thread.  But i guess i also have a hard time with “so i can fit better into my clothes/bathing suit”  argument.  NOT because i think anyone is wrong for feeling that way.  I just think the solution should be in the way clothes are designed and made and society’s emphasis that looking better will make you feel better about yourself – i am sure that 99.9% of women feel that way. I do! I openly admit that if i lost more weight here and there and changed about 1000 things about myself,  i would be happier.  I just think its sad that ANY of us feel this way to any degree.

anyway, i know i am getting waaay off the topic of this thread so i will stop now!

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@dynamic_duo:  I do not think anyone felt that way.  Plastic surgery is a very touchy subject and there are ultimately going to be opposing views on it.  I would never judge you for being “against” it, just as I would hope you would never judge me for having had it.  I just know personally that I stand behind my choice 100%.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion though!  How boring would life be if we were all one the same page about everything??

Post # 52
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Busy Beekeeper

@RahlyRah: haha, i know. i am just very anti-confrontational and i always see threads get heated because people take personal insult to someone’s opinion, so i try to avoid that by prefacing and end-facing what i am saying when i know its touchy!

Post # 54
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858 posts
Busy bee

I dont have much to add all I can say is be very sure your using the best doctor you can find. The last thing you want is for them to not turn out right. If I could I would gladly give you some of mine lol I cant wait to have a reduction after I have kids. Isnt it funny how some women feel they dont have enough well others feel they have too much?

Post # 56
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just wanted to come back and say I didn’t mean to offend anyone about the thearpy comment. I simply brought it up because let’s face it, some women do it because they feel like they aren’t getting enough attention. Self esteem issues are self esteem issues.

I suggest talking to women with real big breasts. I’m a DDD. I was a C cup in high school. It’s not fun. The attention is unwanted. The back pain is a bitch. Finding cute bras is an adventure. Adjusting your bra all day is fantastic. Oh! Wearing a bra and two sports bras just to exercise is the bees knees.

I think most people who want cosmetic surgery should at least have to go through one therapy session. Maybe some people just want it. That’s cool. Maybe some people actually have issues that can be resolved in therapy instead of going under the knife. Like Jocelyn Wildenstein (cat lady), that woman no longer looks human. She should have gone to therapy and her doctors who did that to her should be ashamed.

And the weight loss thing. Most people who are losing weight are not doing it for cosmetic purposes. They are doing it for health reasons. Sure, the desire to look better in clothes is there, but the bigger concern is living and not dying of heart disease or any other obesity related conditions. I’m losing weight because I want to look great in my wedding gown, but the bigger reason is so that I can have more children and be around for them. I don’t want high blood pressure or any other weight related conditions. There really isn’t a bigger reason for cosmetic surgery other than to look better and I think it’s sad that women can’t love what they have.

I can’t pretend to know what goes through someone’s head to make the decision to get cosmetic surgery, but if I were an A cup and wanted to appear more “womanly” I would get water bras and other false things before I added anything to my body.

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee

I say go for it if you can afford it and if it’ll make you happy!

I don’t need them, and I probably wouldn’t get them even if I did..but I know MANY women who have gotten them. And I haven’t met a single person who’s regretted it. You’re beautiful without, I would just make sure you and your Darling Husband are on the same page.

Post # 58
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Can I just say that the implications in this thread that anyone getting this done must want to go huge and/or be an attention whore really bother me? Yes, a lot of you have been careful about how you’ve worded it. Some have not. Either way, it’s a personal decision with or without therapy, and it’s not something anyone should have come on this thread to say. The OP asked for personal experiences/advice about the procedure, not your opinions on her mental health or what constitutes an acceptable general boob size. Are the ladies in this thread with the natural DDD boobs also attention whores? Didn’t think so…

@Miss Tattoo: Sorry, but I have to completely 100% disagree. You can’t say what you’d do as an A cup because you’re not. Not even close. Padded bras look even less real than boob jobs most of the time, and what about at the end of the day when you take it off? You’re still stuck with the boobs you’re unhappy with. Also, a padded bra can only do so much, maybe a cup size if you want the extremely fake looking Victoria’s Secret bras. So, sure, try that for a while, but as your life stretches before you and you realize you can’t or don’t want to keep up the water bra charade, it makes surgery really appealing. Also, for someone so vehement about examining the emotional reasons for wanting surgery, I think it’s ridiculous that you’d so quickly jump to water bras. The effect is the same — you have fake boobs. Either you’re secure with your boobs or you’re not; either you wear some form of fake boobs, be they a bra or an implant, or you don’t. You can’t really have it both ways and make a sustainable argument. I am also suspicious of your claim of American weight loss is exclusively for health benefits (though your own may well be so) anymore. I think that as a culture we’ve begun stigmatizing weight loss for beauty sake as vain and as it goes against part of our culture of diversifying beauty standards. And that’s great that we’re accepting of more body images. But I do think that many people who simply want to lose weight to be skinnier/look better in clothes have started claiming their attempts are for health reasons when they are not. It’d be interesting to do a serious study on this. The point is — people do things to look better. If you don’t want to argue the details over weight loss (which, honestly, beyond this I do not), go look up the recent thread about how much one pays in a month to look good, be it hair care, nails, makeup or whatever. The motivations are similar.

OP, I am with you! If I have the means some day after kids, I will make it happen, too.

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Amaryllis: I agree with your assessment of being an A cup. They’re just…small. It’s hard to fill out clothes sometimes, and padded bras can be very uncomfortable. Right now I like them that way (I don’t always need to wear a bra which is great!) but I’ve seen my mom’s rack after having kids. Not where I want to go AT ALL. If I have kids, I am absolutely getting a “touch up.” As it were.

ETA: OP, obviously I can’t offer a ton of advice so I apologize for that. A relative just had it done and basically only went up 2 cup sizes, it looks very natural but still makes a big difference.

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@KatyElle: AMEN!

I don’t understand why people assume that just because someone wants to get implants that they have “deep-rooted psycological issues”.

Sometimes, we just get tired of never being able to shop in the women’s section because our boobs are too small and the fabric just gaps open!

Sometimes we would like to be able to buy a bra from VS since they don’t may sizes smaller than 34A!

Sometimes we would like people to think that we are older than 16!

Post # 61
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Amaryllis: Maybe I’m a bit biased because all of my friends who have had implants have turned into giant attention whores and probably should have gone to therapy before getting it done.

op: Just don’t turn into an attention whore who makes everything about your implants and annoy everyone around you.

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