Post # 1
I’m scheduled for a breast augmentations 4 months before I’m in a long distance friends wedding. She knows I’ve wanted boobs forever so that’s not an issue. The question is should I tell her before or after I do it? The only reason I’d not tell her is because of the “what ifs” it could give her. She’s very type A and already stressed about planning. I also already ordered my dress based on my projected new bust size. I dont want to add stress, but don’t want to hide it from her- she is a good friend.
What would you want your bridesmaid to do? I’ve already discussed this with my surgeon and the dress shop. Also, did try to call her a few times when first scheduled, but haven’t connected and then the “tell or not” doubts set in.
Post # 3
@MrsMOH-CA: Your breast size is no one’s business but your own. I wouldn’t tell her. You will wear the dress and ensure it fits so what difference does it make to her?
Post # 4
@MrsMOH-CA: If you think shes going to stress about it, I wouldnt tell her until after when you are recovered and back to your normal daily schedule. I wouldnt get mad at my girls for getting a boob job & not telling me. Id be surprised and congratulate her after the fact!
Post # 6
@MrsMOH-CA: I’d tell her after the fact. No need to add stress!
Post # 7
It has nothing to do with her or her wedding, so why on earth would she stress about it? You don’t need to tell her, what you do with your own body is your personal business.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@MrsMOH-CA: Unless you’re high risk for the surgery or something why bother telling her? Most of my friends with implants bounced back really really fast after surgery.
ETA: have you already been fitted for your bridesmaid gown? That could be a problem..
Either way, she’ll find out when she sees you 🙂
Post # 9
Not helpful at all… but I had mine done in March.. Best thing I ever did 🙂
Good Luck!! I hope you love them as much as I do!! xx
Post # 10
Don’t tell her.
I had a boob reduction shortly after my BFF’s mom died. I didn’t tell her because I didn’t want to put another worry on her plate… and honestly it’s pretty personal so the only people I really had to tell were my mom, sister, and husband.
Post # 11
As long as the dress fits and you’re back on your feet by the wedding I don’t see any reason to tell her.
Post # 12
Everyone I know who has had a boob job has been up and going within 2 weeks (most were back up within a week). 4 months out? I wouldn’t bother with telling her. I’m not sure why it would have any bearing on her wedding – it’s not like you’re getting it the week before or anything. I say keep it to yourself, it’s no body’s business anyway.
Post # 13
Tell nobody. The more people you tell, the more unsolicited opinions you will receive.
Post # 14
I think whatever you decide will be just fine. You ordered your dress to fit the new twins so who cares. I think you telling her should be about you being excited about the change and just simply telling her because she’s your friend…and not about the wedding.
Post # 15
@MrsMOH-CA: it sounds like it would be lower stress just to not mention it until after the fact
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
As long as they’re not popping out of your dress, the girls are none of her business. 🙂