(Closed) Boob Spinoff

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@the_future_mrs:  I believe you were commenting in regards to someone saying “A boob is a boob is a boob”…the problem is that, yes, it is, but it has to do with what is acceptable socially and what is not. Then you also run into the problem of what SHOULD be accepted socially. 

For instance, a hand is a hand is a hand…but we are offended seeing a hand with all fingers down except the middle finger. It’s reasonable that we, as a society, are offended, because the intention of this act is to offend. So, it’s not always about anatomy, but perception.

However, one may argue that a certain act offends some people (like BFing), even though it SHOULDN’T, so the person who’s doing the act should not do it, as not to offend the other party. This is a grayer area. However, I would argue that many people are offended by seeing homosexual couples display affection in public. Does this mean that homosexual couples should stop doing this, as not to offend people? No. In this case, if we are offended, we really need to look at ourselves, and see if this is an issue with the offender or the offendee, so to speak. I feel the same way about BFing. The simple fact that it offends some people does not necessarily make it wrong. And the simple fact that uncovering one’s breast in public is not always an acceptable act does not necessarily mean that doing so to BF is unacceptable, as well.

FWIW, the law agrees with me, if that matters to anyone 😉

ETA: WOW, that was convoluted. It’s a complicated issue, so that will happen. Hope I made sense! Also, in reference to using it to “feed” a grown man…a grown man has other sources of nutrients, and also the ability to discern what is appropriate for a grown man & what is not (again, perception comes into play here), so…not exactly the same thing.

Post # 5
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@les105:  Thank You!

Also, your husband doesnt have to be BF for his nourishment. BF babies are BF for nourishment. It’s not optional.

Post # 7
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I am commenting because I’m off to volleyball but I’m really looking forward to seeing what you bees have to say.

 

Last night my DH and I had dinner and the older lady next to us was pretty carefree with her BFing. So much so that it was apparent most of the customers were uncomfortable and one table of six ladies (yes all ladies mid to late 30’s) moved. Her boob was literally within the eye range of my enchiladas so my food was with a side of boob. I had considered moving to sit next to my DH (his back was to her) but she was sitting so strangely there wasn’t really room. I heard a woman at the table next to us saying things like she’d love to walk around topless but that “shit” isn’t acceptable etc etc and that she flashed someone at a football and was escorted out because another mother complained….but she couldn’t complain about this particular situation. It was awkward to say the least.

Post # 9
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@the_future_mrs:  Well, people CAN find children arousing, but that doesn’t mean we ban them from the streets. Like I said, that’s the issue with the person perceiving something, not the person doing the action. 

But, come to think of it, I don’t really see any reason women shouldn’t be allowed to walk around topless…my main issue is women using these arguments to say women shouldn’t be allowed to BF in public because we can’t walk around naked, which are 2 separate issues (again, perceptions are different, fair or not, they are valid).

My only thought as to why women aren’t allowed to walk around naked is that indecent exposure in men is often related to assault and/or harassment of women & that these indecent exposure laws would be even across the board to protect victims. Certainly, if women can walk around showing men their boobs, men can walk up to women & stick their junk in their face…? KWIM? That’s a hard issue to tackle, though I think it’s slightly separate than the issue of women being allowed to BF in public or not, I see where you’re coming from.

Post # 10
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Because she’s doing what’s best for her child. If you’re mad you can’t walk around topless, then take issue with the system, not women who are simply trying to give their child the best possible nourishment.

Post # 11
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511 posts
Busy bee

Breasts are there for a reason, and that’s nursing babies. The fact that they have been sexualized is irrelevant, at least to me.  And as for some people getting their jollies from watching women breastfeeding, the same could be said about people with say…. a foot fetish.  Does that mean that we shouldn’t wear sandals in public?

It’s no wonder women have so many issues with body image.  Having breastfed both my kids, my son for 19 months and my daughter for 16 months, I can tell you there is nothing sexy about a woman nursing a child.  Heartwarming and nurturing? Yes.  Something to gawk at? I hope not.

FYI….it is perfectly legal for a woman in Canada to be topless in public.  Do many women do it? Not so much.

Post # 14
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@the_future_mrs:  Yes me as well. I agree with you that I don’t have an issue with BFing and certainly not if you cover up. I do have an issue as you said with the hypocrisy of it all. Taking the emotion and purpose out of the equation an exposed breast is just that…it does not matter if you are intending to latch a child onto it.

Post # 16
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s simply absurd to take it this far. Honestly breastfeed the shit out of your kid- I just don’t want/ nor need to see it so please have a bit of decency and take a seat somewhere secluded, make an attempt at privacy.

 

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