Book recommendations for expecting fathers

posted 7 months ago in Babies
  • poll: Did your (male) partner find “educational” books helpful in preparing for fatherhood?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    30 %
    No : (2 votes)
    20 %
    He didn’t read any : (5 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 2
    2760 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I can highly recommend pregnancy for men. It’s a bit tongue in cheek humour but has lots of great information in it. If even includes a month by month what not to say to your pregnant partner. Hubby loved it when we were expecting our first. 

    Post # 3
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    “The Expectsbt Father”, “Don’t just stand there”, and “the birth partners guide” are all good with more serious overtones. “What to expect while your wife’s expanding” is a parody of what to expect, but it’s funny and had good info- if you’re more of a humor reader. Congrats! 

    Post # 4
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    We were not able to find any books that appealed to us. I very much wanted my husband to read a book to engage a bit more with what was going on and was initially upset. Then I realized I didn’t like any books I saw either and it was fine. We used google for basic questions and figured stuff out as we came to it.  

    Post # 5
    7273 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    elliebee357 :  someone gave my husband “Dude You’re Going to Be a Dad” and is was total garbage. Unless you like being addressed as a bro-y frat guy. He didn’t bother trying any other books after that and just relied on the Ovia app, our midwife/birthing class, and what I told him I’d read. 

    Post # 6
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    elliebee357 :  I read aloud parts of the Mayo Clinic guide to pregnancy that I thought would be useful or interesting but that’s it. I knew he wouldn’t just sit and read it. We both enjoyed hearing what stage baby was at weekly, which I just pulled off baby center.

    Really, unless your husband is totally thoughtless, the advice to just do what wife asks, be it to help or to let her do her thing, is about all he really needs. My husband did a great job and didn’t need a book to tell him to just be supportive. If a standard book works for you, it shouldn’t need dumbing-down for him.  (He also wound up holding up one of my legs at the midwife’s request. That was a surprise for us both, lol). 

    Post # 7
    640 posts
    Busy bee

    Shit my dad says!! It’s not about babies or pregnancy support so it’s not a top priority but he should read it for sure. I laughed, I cried, I laughed until I cried. It’s a short read too. 

    Post # 8
    9091 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i told my husband what i wanted him to know.  and to this day, i read the books and tell him what i want him to do.  we’re potty training my oldest.  i read “oh crap potty training”  took notes, and shared it with Darling Husband.  then i photocopied the cheat sheet quick guide in the back, gave it to him to read.  when i asked for it back after i had returned the book to the library, he told me he threw it away.

    Post # 9
    178 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    My husband is reading “We’re Pregnant! The First Time Dad’s Pregnancy Handbook”. So far, so good. The chapters are fairly short and cover what is happening to me during that week of pregnancy and ideas for how he can be supportive during that time.

    Post # 12
    2760 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I suppose the emotional side is so personal there isn’t much that can be written. Just like how every woman experiences pregnancy and motherhood differently so does every man.

    i would suggest though taking some time to talk about what type of parent you think you are, what support will look like for you and really stress that his feelings are just as valid and that he can talk and share with you. elliebee357 :  

    Post # 13
    70 posts
    Worker bee

    There’s a book called “how to dad” but idk if it’s available outside New Zealand 

    Post # 14
    1959 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    We are both reading What To Expect When You’re Expecting and so far we are both enjoying it.

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