Post # 1
I haven’t posted in a while but I should share…I’m engaged!! FINALLY. And I just booked the same venue that my cousin had her reception at 3 years ago. I was a bridesmaid in this wedding as well. Is this weird?
I LOVE this venue so much and there are so many reasons why I picked it. After exhausting all of the options, and Fiance and I looked at many venues, this is the one we chose. The price is amazing for how elegant it is, and my cousin’s reception was beautiful and so well done. The food was also incredible. It’s really affordable and so far working with the staff has been a great experience. I guess this is just more my own insecurity as to how it will look having my reception at the same place. It’s also a fairly popular venue in my area because of how good the service is, so it’s possible some of my guests may have already attended some kind of event there before.
When I told my cousin from the get-go that we were considering that venue, I received no reservations from her. She told me how many compliments she got afterwards. When I told her we booked it, she has shown nothing but support, excitement, and happiness. I haven’t heard a single negative word from her about it and she’s been really excited about my wedding overall. I also plan on asking her to be in the bridal party. So it’s not like she has a problem with it, and we will only have guest overlap with her family and a couple cousins on our side of the family. By the time my wedding comes, it will be over 4 years since she had her wedding there and my colors, theme, etc. will all be completely different from hers. I suppose I just need some validation that this was an ok thing to do and that it’s not strange. lol. Has anybody else booked the same venue as a family member?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
It seems completely fine. Her wedding was three years ago. She seems okay with it. You love it. So…
For a long time, EVERYONE got married at the same place; the family church. I don’t think every wedding needs to be super original to be beautiful. You’ll have other details in place and unless her wedding was EXCEPTIONALLY memorable most of the guests who attended her ceremony will have forgotten most of it anyway.
I say congratulations for booking a venue you like, and run with it!
Post # 3
Congratulations!!!! I think your communication with her along the way was great. I do not think using the same venue 4 years later is weird at all! My cousins (from the same aunt) were married at the same venue just three years apart, and I felt as though that added sentimental value 🙂
Post # 4
It’s fine. If she doesn’t have a problem with it, do not listen to anyone else, including us.
There are lots of small towns where the choices are so limited that almost everyone uses the same venue.
Post # 5
Thank you all for the congratulations and your responses!
I suppose I should add that we are the only girls in the family (as far first cousins go), so I have thought about how this might bring sentimental value to it. She’s the closest blood relative I have to a sister. My ceremony will also take place at a completely different location than hers did.
Post # 6
There is no problem with this. There are a limited amount of venues. I am finding out myself now that there is an even more limited number of reasonably priced venues. If you live near where your cousin lived then it is predictable that you will use the same venue.
Post # 8
I got married at the same church as my bestfriend. The reception was also the same location. The two weddings were very different, eventhough I borrowed some of her glasses and decor.
Post # 9
I see no problem with this at all. I have 5 cousins that all got married at the same venue, granted they lived in the country so there wasn’t a whole lot to choose from. It was awesome to see how each bride made it her own… and as a guest it was also kind of nice to know what to expect at the venue (where its located, parking, transportation, facilities). And if the cousin is okay with it then you FOR SURE have nothing to worry about.
Post # 10
Definitely okay to do this – and congratulations on your engagement. Happy wedding planning!
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK
It was three years ago. I see no problem at all.
My cousin and I had our weddings at the same venue. A week apart. x)
Post # 13
I didn’t read any of the other responses. This is perfectly great. My friend got married before me and suggested her venue to me and my wedding was the same year. I would have considered it if we hadn’t already booked our venue. I’d be thrilled if a friend booked where I did or website my friend did. We both got an excellent deal and great quality. I would want a family member or friend to get a nice venue for a nice price too.
Post # 14
If she doesn’t have an issue with it, then it’s fine. It’s debatable how much of a right she has to object, but that’s a moot point.
It’s not like you’re doing the same venue across the hall in NYC on the same day a la some romcom whose name I forgot.