Booked venue before engaged officially, am I the only one that did it backwards?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
323 posts
Helper bee

No, plenty of people have posted about it. I’m usually wary, but it sounds like you’ve made specific plans to get engaged. In this case, it makes sense to me to go ahead and start getting your ducks in a row. Spring will come up fast! I think if you and your partner are agreed mutually to get engaged and you KNOW the ring is ordered and you KNOW when you will recieve it, it’s perfectly sensible to get started on the planning. 

Congrats girl!!! Make sure you come back from Japan with pics!

Post # 3
1522 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Hi we did this and it has turned out perfect so far no issues! Don’t worry about it. 

We have also been together 7 years, around Christmas we decided this is the year. Long story short we started researching places and I contacted our top desired venue just to get info, they only had two dates available that worked for us so we booked it and didn’t tell anyone. A month later he proposed officially when the ring was ready! 

Enjoy planning and congrats 🙂

Post # 5
323 posts
Helper bee

Squeal! I must admit, all of our friends and family know! It’s been extra nice actually since everyone keeps bringing up and asking me about when he will propose, our plans, etc… When is your trip, and what part of Japan are you going to??

Post # 7
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Newsflash – the minute you decide you’re getting married and start planning, you ARE engaged.

We decided, booked our venue then waited well over a month to tell anyone (for good reasons which don’t matter here), and nearly 3 months to get me a ring.  And technically there was no proposal. None of that made us any less engaged, and no-one cares.

Congratulations x

Post # 8
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We did this too!  My husband and I had been talking about our venue in Mexico, and I called them, and when I did, I found out they only had 1 Saturday left in the fall, so I booked it on the spot without telling him!  Luckily, he was ok with it.  We officially got engaged about a month later, but it was hard not telling everyone about it!

Post # 9
995 posts
Busy bee

We agreed to get married on a Monday in October, booked the venue on Wednesday…didn’t start designing the ring until February and he didn’t “officially” propose until about 30 minutes before our wedding in June. 

Do what works for you!

Post # 10
1012 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My friend is doing this now. I think it’s fairly common with traditional venues. 

Post # 11
1943 posts
Buzzing bee

We did this because needed to book our venue 18 months in advance. We’ve been married now for 8 months and it worked out perfectly. 

Post # 12
1175 posts
Bumble bee

Not weird at all if the ring is already in the making and you both agreed on the venue etc. if it was more one sided where he’s still umming and uhhing about when to get engaged and went along with the venue booking, then I’d be more concerned. Doesn’t seem to be the case here.

Post # 13
9388 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

so long as he’s on board its not weird.  

If you did this behind his back simply assuming he’d propose, it’d be strange lol.

Post # 14
323 posts
Helper bee

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missyjz :  Yeah, I love when bees come on and are like, “my boyfriend SAYS we’ll get engaged, so he told me to go ahead and book a venue and caterer and photographer, now 3 months later there’s still no ring! >:(” like girl he fooled you if you paid for that yourself…

Post # 15
13725 posts
Honey Beekeeper

If you have a venue and a date, that makes you engaged. 

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