Booked Venues = Weekday Wedding?!

posted 2 months ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

We had a Tuesday wedding (31st July) with about 50 guests and everyone turned up ๐Ÿ™‚ ceremony at 3pm and reception straight after until about midnight ๐Ÿ™‚ no one left early!

Not everyone has weekends off with our guests and the ones that were working booking 2 days off for the wedding ๐Ÿ™‚ it was also school holidays and kids were invited so no issues there. Made it very easy to get vendors as most we looked into were available.

It didn’t feel midweek it was still a happy/party atmosphere and everyone had a great time! It can work ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 3
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I thinking sounds like it works with your guest list so no hate from me! 

Some people are stickers for tradition, and if all your guests worked 9-5 it would be horribly incovenient to them, but in your case sounds fine to me! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I married on a Friday for this reason. We got engaged in Sept and I really wanted a July wedding. It had to be the following July (2011) as the year after (2012) would be when London was hosting the Olympics and didn’t want any clashes. 

It was a Friday at the start of the school holidays and we had a wedding of 120 guests, only 1 declined due to work. Ceremony was at 1pm and reception until midnight. Our evening guests were from 7:30. We held it locally for us which still meant all family had to travel.

it was a great day and no regrets about it being a Friday. 

Also, unless all your guests are non drinkers, I’d offer some alcohol … it’s only polite.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

ashlyn0689 :  fair enough – perhaps have a look at the non alcoholic gin on the market for cocktails.

im pregnant at the moment and getting so sick of sweet non alcoholic cocktails / drinks. Sometimes with meals you want something different. 

Post # 9
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6698 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

ashlyn0689 :  I myself am getting married on a Friday next year. Our decision wasn’t just based on cost (it wasn’t that much cheaper) but we decided Friday would be fine as both sets of parents are retired, a lot of our friends don’t work a typical Mon-Fri and to be honest, we sent the save the dates a year in advance so if people couldn’t book a friday with a years notice then they were welcome not to come. I have lost count of the amount of days leave I have used for other people’s weddings so I am sure most of our friends and family wouldn’t mind. Just do what is best for you. 

Post # 11
Hostess
6698 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

ashlyn0689 :  I too wasn’t going to do Save-The-Date Cards (extra money, extra paper, extra faff) but with a week day wedding I realised the importance and also I have guests comming from abroad so I wanted to give them as much notice as possible. I sent my Save-The-Date Cards out 1 year in advance and proper invites 6 months. (Which I think is fairly standard in the UK, but from what I have seen on the bee, invites seem to go later in the US). Just do what you think is right. I am in the school of though of the more notice the better. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Getting engaged now with a wedding next summer is not a “short engagment.”

I hate week day weddings.  Unless you were very close to me, I probably would decline.  It’s a lot of hassle in my area (traffic) to get around right after work, and Darling Husband had very limited leave so he wouldn’t want to take time off for someone who wasn’t a really close friend or family member. 

Post # 13
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Newbee

Normally I’d say hell no but if you know most of your guests work weekends anyway, then… I suppose it works! Do expect that not everyone will be able to come, people might leave early, etc. It’s very hard for people who work Mon – Fri to have a weeknight wedding, especially those with children. You’ll probably save a ton of money though.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

ashlyn0689 :  I work “regular” hours and would attend a weekday wedding, but my company is pretty chill about leaving a couple hours early every once and a while so assuming it was close by it wouldn’t be an issue. Sounds like this would be convenient for most of your crowd, I say go for it.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You don’t have to serve alcohol if it’s a moral/religious thing for you. Mocktails can be fun, too! It sounds like your guests know you well enough not to expect it. That said, alcohol definitely gets people out on the dance floor, and if you plan to go until midnight …

As for weekday weddings, if most/all of your guests are retired, on summer break, or shift workers for whom Saturday is a big deal, then it makes sense. I give major side-eye to people who have weekday weddings as a cost-saving measure then get butthurt when guests can’t make it happen, but in your case it makes a ton of sense! Just be really gracious about anyone who can’t make it. And try not to be hurt if people don’t want to stick around until late (for me, even when I was in grad school and had weird hours [like Monday off but worked on Saturday/Sunday], I wouldn’t stay out late on a day I had off. I usually had to work the next day!)

Good luck!

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