Post # 1
Hey guys! So bf and I aren’t quite engaged yet (ring has already been ordered just waiting for it to arrive & for a proposal). We’ve been together for three years so naturally I’ve had time to daydream. I’ve looked at venues in our area and unfortunately weekends are pretty much entirely booked for all of next summer. Getting married next summer is non-negotiable for us but I’m starting to think we’ll have to get creative to find an available venue. I’ve noticed weekdays are pretty much entirely open so I’ve thought about doing that. I know weekday weddings (can) get a lot of hate but do you think guests would be understanding if it was a short engagment (we would let them know the date ASAP)?? Note: We both work shift work so most of our friends/ coworkers don’t have Saturdays off anyways. Also, we will have quite a few retired guests… Also, we don’t plan to have alcohol if that makes any difference. Thoughts?? What do you think of weekday weddings? If we book a weekday how can we make it more enjoyable for guests? Also, if you have any ideas to find a venue but not book a weekday PLEASE help a girl out! Thank you(:
Edit: I have a lot of family out of state but would be shocked if more than 1-2 famlies tops showed up. The rest of our guests would have about a 30 minute drive to the potential venue.
Post # 2
We had a Tuesday wedding (31st July) with about 50 guests and everyone turned up 🙂 ceremony at 3pm and reception straight after until about midnight 🙂 no one left early!
Not everyone has weekends off with our guests and the ones that were working booking 2 days off for the wedding 🙂 it was also school holidays and kids were invited so no issues there. Made it very easy to get vendors as most we looked into were available.
It didn’t feel midweek it was still a happy/party atmosphere and everyone had a great time! It can work 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
I thinking sounds like it works with your guest list so no hate from me!
Some people are stickers for tradition, and if all your guests worked 9-5 it would be horribly incovenient to them, but in your case sounds fine to me!
Post # 4
I married on a Friday for this reason. We got engaged in Sept and I really wanted a July wedding. It had to be the following July (2011) as the year after (2012) would be when London was hosting the Olympics and didn’t want any clashes.
It was a Friday at the start of the school holidays and we had a wedding of 120 guests, only 1 declined due to work. Ceremony was at 1pm and reception until midnight. Our evening guests were from 7:30. We held it locally for us which still meant all family had to travel.
it was a great day and no regrets about it being a Friday.
Also, unless all your guests are non drinkers, I’d offer some alcohol … it’s only polite.
Post # 5
Twizbe : I’m so glad to hear a weekday worked out for you! I definitely wouldn’t do it during the school year but being that it’ll be summer and it stays light out until at least 10:00 here in the summer I feel like it won’t feel as odd as say a winter weekday wedding. On the alcohol thing, I know most people drink but I feel like our crowd wouldn’t be too upset if we don’t provide alcohol. His parents are super against alcohol since alcoholism runs so strong in the family & then my side is against it because of religion/ my great-grandparents being killed by a drunk driver… When I say we don’t drink I mean ever. Our friends know that us about us though and don’t give us too much crap. We’d of course have awesome non-alcohol beverages and delish food but I can’t imagine shelling out hundreds of dollars on something I wouldn’t even buy for myself/ don’t really like in the first place(:
Post # 6
gemmabuzz : Love it! Yay for Tuesdays(: Why’d you pick a weekday? Just curious
Post # 7
janne91 : I think you’re right! I can only think of a handful of people who are 9-5’ers with our crowd!
Post # 8
ashlyn0689 : fair enough – perhaps have a look at the non alcoholic gin on the market for cocktails.
im pregnant at the moment and getting so sick of sweet non alcoholic cocktails / drinks. Sometimes with meals you want something different.
Post # 9
ashlyn0689 : I myself am getting married on a Friday next year. Our decision wasn’t just based on cost (it wasn’t that much cheaper) but we decided Friday would be fine as both sets of parents are retired, a lot of our friends don’t work a typical Mon-Fri and to be honest, we sent the save the dates a year in advance so if people couldn’t book a friday with a years notice then they were welcome not to come. I have lost count of the amount of days leave I have used for other people’s weddings so I am sure most of our friends and family wouldn’t mind. Just do what is best for you.
Post # 10
MsBeer : So glad to hear of someone else on the same page. I too have taken SOOOO many days for other people’s events. I originally didn’t want to do save the dates because they seem like extra paper to me but I feel like if we end up going with a weekday it almost becomes necessary… What do you think? They’d be getting about 6 months heads up.
Post # 11
ashlyn0689 : I too wasn’t going to do Save-The-Date Cards (extra money, extra paper, extra faff) but with a week day wedding I realised the importance and also I have guests comming from abroad so I wanted to give them as much notice as possible. I sent my Save-The-Date Cards out 1 year in advance and proper invites 6 months. (Which I think is fairly standard in the UK, but from what I have seen on the bee, invites seem to go later in the US). Just do what you think is right. I am in the school of though of the more notice the better.
Post # 12
Getting engaged now with a wedding next summer is not a “short engagment.”
I hate week day weddings. Unless you were very close to me, I probably would decline. It’s a lot of hassle in my area (traffic) to get around right after work, and Darling Husband had very limited leave so he wouldn’t want to take time off for someone who wasn’t a really close friend or family member.
Post # 13
Normally I’d say hell no but if you know most of your guests work weekends anyway, then… I suppose it works! Do expect that not everyone will be able to come, people might leave early, etc. It’s very hard for people who work Mon – Fri to have a weeknight wedding, especially those with children. You’ll probably save a ton of money though.
Post # 14
ashlyn0689 : I work “regular” hours and would attend a weekday wedding, but my company is pretty chill about leaving a couple hours early every once and a while so assuming it was close by it wouldn’t be an issue. Sounds like this would be convenient for most of your crowd, I say go for it.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
You don’t have to serve alcohol if it’s a moral/religious thing for you. Mocktails can be fun, too! It sounds like your guests know you well enough not to expect it. That said, alcohol definitely gets people out on the dance floor, and if you plan to go until midnight …
As for weekday weddings, if most/all of your guests are retired, on summer break, or shift workers for whom Saturday is a big deal, then it makes sense. I give major side-eye to people who have weekday weddings as a cost-saving measure then get butthurt when guests can’t make it happen, but in your case it makes a ton of sense! Just be really gracious about anyone who can’t make it. And try not to be hurt if people don’t want to stick around until late (for me, even when I was in grad school and had weird hours [like Monday off but worked on Saturday/Sunday], I wouldn’t stay out late on a day I had off. I usually had to work the next day!)