Booked Venues = Weekday Wedding?!

posted 1 week ago in Venue
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

ashlyn0689 :  

1. It is adorable that you think alcohol for a wedding reception would be “hundreds” of dollars. Yup. You definitely don’t drink! lol

2. This all sounds totally fine since you have clearly factored in how a weekday dry wedding will impact your guests. If you guys literally never drink then anyone who knows you well enough to be invited to your wedding would surely not expect alcohol. They may think there might be wine at dinner but probably won’t be shocked and appalled if there isn’t. And if Saturdays are actually more difficult for a lot of your guests but weekdays are fine for the vast majority then it only makes sense.

3. Because you’ll be saving a lot of money on the venue and by not providing alcohol this just means you’ve got more room in your budget to up the food game or add unique and fun twists to your wedding. That’s awesome!

As for how to make it enjoyable to guests, I think that will really depend on your crowd. I’d say you should definitely do cake and punch. Maybe consider hiring live music since you likely won’t have much of a dance floor going? I’d stay away from trying to do too many forced activities but maybe you could have a photobooth or some other kind of interactive memento-maker available? We are considering instead of doing a guest book having a polaroid station at our reception and asking everyone to take a photo of themselves and write a note on the back. They’d of course be welcome to take a second one to keep for themselves. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

ashlyn0689 :  OMG I’m dying here! I was laughing because saying “hundreds” is a massive UNDER estimate of the costs! LOL

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

ashlyn0689 :  I’ve never been to a wedding with live music that didn’t also have a dance floor, but the reason I suggested it was because I was thinking to myself what would I enjoy at a wedding if I wasn’t dancing and drinking? And I think sitting back, eating some grub and listening to a band would be a good time, and I would certainly find that more enjoyable than being forced to play a bunch of group games or participate in wedding shower style activities.

I love the idea of getting BBQ. I think the combination of BBQ, outdoors and live music would make for a super chill vibe. Is that a vibe you would enjoy?

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

ashlyn0689 :  hahaha yeahhhh definitely not metal… even if some of your guests are metalheads, it just is not the right genre for what is supposed to be a chill event.

Maybe look in local listings for wedding bands that play a variety of genres?  Otherwise, if you’re going to go for a band that sticks to one genre, I’d go with non-screamy rock or something with a bit of a folk feel to it.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

ashlyn0689 :  I’m the wrong person to ask about when you “should” end a weekday wedding because I work a 50 hour week. I would be one of those people who would leave right after dinner because I had to get up at 6 the next morning. To be completely honest, I’ve been to dry weddings and I’ve been to let-it-all-out dance party weddings, but never one that was both. (My Fiance comes from a religious family and they don’t drink at weddings, so I’ve seen it a fair number of times.) Unless it’s cultural totally the norm in your circle to both not have alcohol AND to dance (ex: I went to a Muslim wedding that was very high energy!) then I don’t think it’ll just happen organically. A weeknight wedding is just going to be a totally different feel than a Saturday party wedding. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I’d strongly advise you to temper your expectations about how late people will stay and how much they’ll dance. 

Post # 28
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Newbee

Since you asked what we think abour weekday weddings, I am going to give you my honest opinion.   But, I will preface it with you have to do what you want.  Only you know your closest friends and family and what they would be comfortable with.   Its my opinion of how I would feel and not a judgement of your plans.

 

If I were invited to a wedding Monday – Thursday evening, I would declilne.   I can’t take time off from work for non-essential events so unless you were my child I just couldn’t do it. And even if it started after 6pm, it would be unfair to  expect my co-workers to deal with me the next day after not getting enough sleep because a wedding ended at 10pm on a weekday.

If it were Friday, I would think very hard about declining because I wouldnt want to be that person.  You know the one, that is exhausted from their work week and wants the event to be over from the minute they walk in the door.

Final thought, I honestly cannot imagine anyone wanting to dance and party on a Monday night, but seeing that in writing makes me think I am getting old before my time   undecided

 

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - small boat wedding

We’re having a Wednesday wedding and expected a lot of people to not want to / not be able to attend because of that. 90% of our RSVP returned a Yes! :O We mostly invited only people who mattered, and I think we matter to them as well. 🙂 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I think for your circumstances a weekday wedding will do nicely 🙂 As someone who only very occasionally drinks (and I use this term loosely, as I usually don’t even finish a whole drink!) I’ll never understand why people “need” alcohol to have fun. Dry weddings/events can be just as much fun as one with a bar! I’ll admit, it’s rare to see a dry wedding with an active dance floor, but perhaps that’s because the dry weddings I have attended were also no dance. It’s not often you find one that has one but not the other. However, I DO think you can have a lot of fun without a cocktail!

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