Post # 1
Good morning all,
My fiance and I settled on a date , and so the search for a wedding venue begins. I started exploring some options online, and now I will start contacting venues for a walk-through and rates. I read online that if I don’t mention the venue is for a wedding, but rather for a “family gathering”, it’s cheaper. Is that true? If you’ve done this, please tell me about your experience. Did the event manager get upset because you did not disclose that it was actually for a wedding? Were you still provided the wedding amenities, such as a bridal suit, centerpieces, etc.? Did you simply mention that you were looking for a venue for a 5-6 hour family gathering? I don’t want to say the wrong thing or make a bad impression that I lose a potential dream venue.
Just in case you were wondering, here’s the website where I read this tip. http://www.wikihow.com/Save-Money-on-Your-Wedding-Ceremony-and-Reception
Post # 2
I think you’re going to get some harsh responses — there have been other similar threads that did not go well.
I would not do it. Misrepresenting the nature of the vent could cause issues with your contract, and you need the venue to work with you through the entire events. You do not want them to cause a scene at your wedding.
Find a venue you can affort and be upfront and everything will go much more smoothly.
ETA: the article says that you don’t need to tell the bakery or the floirst it’s a wedding. You can probably get away with that. But not the venue — they will clearly be able to see what it is.
Post # 3
Also, I just went to that page and read the advice. Although some of the advice is good, some of it is suspect; calling September, October, November and April off season is way off base. October is one of the most popular months to get married, at least in the northern hemisphere. January and February are off-season.
Post # 4
No, I would not be dishonest with the venue. It seems like it would cause so many awkward conversations and logisticaly, how would you plan your day with them if you’re not telling the truth?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be comfortable lying. I’ve found that a lot of venues offer add ins and discounts from January to April, and some were even able to negotiate prices lower than advertised. Just visit some venues and see what they can offer you. I’d be honest that you’re looking for the best price and they might be more flexible than you think (obviously some venues might not be if they are super in demand).
Post # 6
I’ve heard that too, but I personally wouldn’t feel right misleading my venue. Especially since I absolutely love our DOC. Your venue may realize what’s going on and cancel your contract (without any type of refund) or add additional charges at the end. Being upfront with everything is truly the only way to logistically plan your wedding. There’s A LOT of detail and time frames that go into it that may not work for you if you are not honest
Post # 7
I’m with PPs. Do not lie to the venue.
Post # 8
I don’t see how this would work with traditional wedding venues. They will know what’s going on pretty fast!
However, we looked at many places that were not typically as used wedding venues. Given that I knew they probably didn’t have wedding rates to begin with, I first asked if they were open to hosting events like family reunions and if so, how much they charged. I didn’t want to throw the wedding word right from the get-go, though it obviously came up later. In the end, we rented a big chalet, and we were one of their first weddings ever. We got charged the regular weekend rental rate. But after us, they started marketing their venue as a wedding venue, and now they have a different pricing scale.
Post # 9
You somehow think you will get a venue to believe that you need their wedding venue, their bridal suites, and their wedding centerpieces for a family event that lasts the typical length of a wedding and then – when you show up in a wedding gown with a wedding party and doing the typical wedding reception tropes…they won’t know you’re having a wedding? And then they won’t charge you the full price?
Doesn’t seem smart.
And FWIW none of the wedding venues charged “more” for a wedding. They charged X price for Saturday nights, Y price for Sundays, etc. No matter what the event was.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for the feedback. I was thinking of the same thing. It seems deceitful and starts a business transaction with a lie. And who wants that. But, because it was listed on the WIKIHOW website, I thought it might be a valid tip, so I wanted the feedback of other brides before contacting venues. I’m glad that my gut was right on this one. Thanks again!