(Closed) Booking the venue without the ring?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3441 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If you think you will be getting the ring soon then I would wait for the proposal. It makes it that much more excited if you are actually engaged and people will take you more serious. You could technically book something before you got engaged, but since you would still have a yr from when he is planning on proposing I would wait. I was in your same exact situation and did some research on venues and decided on a date but didn’t go on visits until after he officially proposed.

Post # 4
152 posts
Blushing bee

we booked it and we’re not ‘officially’ engaged yet!

we’re getting married on 21st September 2013. this date is perfect for our honeymoon (Disney World) and we are 100% set on this particular venue.

i’m not getting a ring for another 6 months (it’s being custom made) but we were worried that if we waited until then this date at this venue would already have been taken.

we paid the deposit ourselves as our parents have no idea about this just yet. we want to keep it a secret until we have the ring 🙂

so i say do it!!

Post # 6
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would get a band (10$) just so someone sees something on there. Youll be taken much more seriously if there is something on that fingure. 

Post # 8
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If this is the only venue youve looked at I say keep looking at a few others before you make your choice. I regret having booked my venue without shopping around more. We were 1300km away from our venue however which made things very difficult.

Post # 10
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Fiance wears a ring all the time which I had bought without knowing why years before we met. It fit him perfectly and we took that as a sign. Weve had a lot less issues with inapropriete women at work since he started wearring it.

Post # 12
16 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

Me and Fiance went venue hunting before being engaged, however we brought our parents along and did not mention that we were not yet engaged which helped in the “taking us seriously” departement. We didnt book it until after the engagement tough. But if you know you are getting your ring for sure, I say go for it 🙂

Post # 13
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We ended up checking out several venues before I had the ring. But the proposal wasn’t a surprise as we had been discussing getting married in Fall 2012 for several months. I was doing some checking into venues we liked in July/August 2011 for our Fall 2012 wedding and found out that most of the venues were already booking into Fall 2013. So we went and looked at venues before the ring was on the finger…fiance actually proposed a day earlier than he had planned because we were going to visit the #1 venue on my list and he wanted me to “be official” before we went.

Post # 14
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We booked our venue the second week in September and got married the end of November.  A year is plenty of time!

I would also wait for the proposal before booking the venue!

Post # 15
4996 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t book a venue until I was engaged. Why is he waiting? It seems kind of strange to me that he’s coming up with solutions to the problem of your mother not wanting to give you money, yet he hasn’t proposed. Isn’t the simpliest solution for him to make it official? 

Post # 16
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would wait before booking. From a logistical standpoint, it might make sense to do it reverse, but there is something about actually being engaged and then proceeding with planning. 

To me it seems kind of anticlimatic to plan half your wedding (and your venue is approximately 50%+ of your planning) before being engaged. Just me though.

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