Post # 1
I already purchased Emotionally Engaged and The Concious Bride.
But I wanted to see if there were any other good ones?
For some reason out of the blue Im suddenly nervous about getting married. It has nothing to do with my FI- I love him and I want to be with him forever. But the thought of marriage and it being so permenant and set all of a sudden freaks me out and gives me anxiety. But Ive always wanted this! Why am I scared of the change? the unknown? the together forever stuff? Ive never felt this way until I started suffering from panic attacks for no reason. But now I can pinpoint certain reasons.
Anyways- I like reading those books, it makes me realize Im not the only Bride TO be thats scared. Any other book suggestions???
Post # 3
I think you actually answered your own question—-it may be the unknown. Getting married is letting go of familiarity and your own security. You’re are merging your life with someone else’s and trusting them to be honest, loyal, forgiving, etc. It can be alot to take in if you overthink it. It is natural to be nervous–sometimes I think, “oh my God what have I gotten myself into.” However, when we have talks where he is encouraging/supporting me I have that “aha, this is why” moment. No I don’t have any book suggestions, but just know it is normal and try not to overthink it. Love is the greatest gift and biggest risk we will all take, but the payoff (hopefully) will be so much more!
Post # 4
If you’ve purchased and enjoyed The Conscious Bride then check out Sheryl Paul’s website: http://www.conscious-transitions.com for more about bridal anxiety. Don’t worry, it’s normal!
Post # 5
@Mathis13: Thank you so much, that just made me smile… Thats my problem, I overthink everything and second guess myself. I have to stop.
Post # 6
If reading books on the subject helps, then by all means do it, but I think you just need to take a step back from wedding planning.
I know that when I overthink something I freak myself out. I try to focus on something else and then the original problem doesn’t seem so huge anymore. It helps me put it into perspective.
I really think this is just a case of overthinking things. Marriage won’t change that much if you’re already in a solid, committed relationship. Imagine your life without your man in it and then you might be feeling less anxious about getting hitched.