(Closed) Boooo ban on planning for 2 months! And the wedding is in 6 months!

posted 6 years ago in November 2012
Post # 4
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@lisha_1988:  That’s a bummer :(.  You are being super sweet by not planning- way better than I would be.  FI is an athlete and works full time; he would love to be involved, but working around his schedule and my work / grad school schedule would be a nightmare.  I have started offering two options.  For instance, I said “honey, would you like rootbeer floats or a pie buffet?”.  This way, he feels involved, but doesn’t get bogged in the details.  I think he appreciates being able to “help”.

Post # 5
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@lisha_1988:  Aww, bummer!  I think if I were you I would still “browse” around for ideas.  No planning, just idea gathering. πŸ˜‰ Then you might not feel so overwhelmed when you do get back in planning mode since you’ll already have some thoughts brewing. 

Post # 6
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah from a guy’s point of view, I think the “this or that” question would appeal to him more. Guys are more straightfoward whereas women love to hear ALL the details! I don’t think that would be too much on him. Also start off the convo (or end it) with nothing wedding-related at all. One question per email I would say. You dont want to tire him out or get him stressed over the wedding planning.

Post # 7
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Maybe just don’t give him wedding questions every day. Save up all your work for each week and send him a concise list of questions once a week on a set day. Girl, you have real stuff to do! This is the time when things are happening and decisions must be made! It’s sweet that he wants to be involved, but that means he actually needs to BE INVOLVED. It’s in no way impossible to do this from a distance or when you’ve got a crazy schedule. He really needs to lay off the “ban” and the two of you together need to work out a way to proceed during these two months where you can actualy get things done. It won’t be any easier to put things off and go bonkers when he comes home.

Post # 8
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Nothing wedding related at all? Or you just can’t make major decisions without him?

If it’s the latter, then you can still do some planning: get ideas and have vendor options ready for him when he gets back and is ready to jump into the planning with you. Look up, say photographers, and have a list of your TOP favorites in your price range so you two can go meet with the together. Same with a DJ, caterer, etc….

Two months of orgnizing thoughts and ideas will give you a headstart once you actively start planing again.  Then all you need to do is book everything, which takes all of 5 minutes.

Post # 10
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

Maybe ‘schedule’ some wedding meetings with him in advance for when he’s home – have some ideas / suggestions / viedographers lined up so all he has to do is choose from your fav!

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