Post # 1
Okay bees, so my wedding is in ….10 days and I am getting overwhelmed with every stupid little worry in the world. And it poses the question I want to ask, has anyone ever been to a boring wedding? I am soooo concerned that people will consider my wedding boring and I’ll never hear the end of it. We paid for everything ourselves so we did the best we could do with everything that has been happening (ie. Car has broken down three times in the last month and totaling almost 1,000 to fix it which put a big damper on things we wanted) just someone please tell me have you ever been to a boring wedding?
Post # 3
Yes I have… and I am scared to say these things before I ask why do you think your wedding will be boring? because of what aspects?
Post # 4
Yes, I’ve been to a boring wedding, but it was my own fault. Everything was beautiful, the meal was delicious, and I was seated at a table with one of my dearest friends. To me, the night was boring because I was PMSing, didn’t feel like dancing, and I didn’t make the effort to do much else other than talk to the people at my table. I was bored because of how I was feeling, not anything the bride did or didn’t do.
Please don’t worry about this–your guests are grownups and I’m sure everything will be LOVELY. Have a great time and congratulations!
Post # 5
Yes, but mostly its because of the people that were there or not knowing anyone. I think how great a wedding is, is due to the people there, not really the food or location.
Post # 6
This was one of my biggest fears, and honestly I have no idea if my wedding was boring or not. The family and friends you invite to your wedding are going to enjoy being a part of your day no matter what.
Post # 7
Sure I have. But it wasn’t because of the money that was spent or not spent on it. It was because the couple spent the bulk of their time with friends, and the guest list was weird, so I didn’t know anyone besides my now-DH.
But that was just my perspective on that wedding. If I had been a close friend or family, I am sure I would have had a blast. And I don’t fault the couple for this either! It’s not their fault I didn’t know anyone. So erase this worry from your thoughts (oh yes, easier said than done). Just say hi to everyone and let your guests share in your happiness!
Post # 8
Relax. For years and years, weddings have consisted or ceremony followed by some type of reception with toasts, speeches, food, drink etc. Some have music and dancing- some don’t. People love to socialize and visit with the bride and groom, the families and the other guests.
Wedding guests don’t need anything else to have a good time.
Post # 9
Yes, I have been bored at at wedding but like others have mentioned it was because I didnt really know anyone.
Post # 10
@lefeymw: I agree completely! The only thing that’s made a wedding not especially fun was if I didn’t know very many people, or the crowd was kind of stuffy. At the end of the day, I think the people make the party what it is.
Post # 11
I’ve never been to a *boring* wedding, but I have, as a result of my own insecurities or state in life, been very bored at a reception. (eg, once or twice when I was single and really being reminded of how single I was, I was soooo sad at the reception. through no fault of the people planning the wedding! even if I had been allowed to bring a date, I wouldn’t have had anyone to bring, so that wouldn’t have mattered!)
I’ve certainly never been to a boring wedding ceremony! It’s just so happy no matter how undecorated or bad the music or whatever it is!
Post # 12
I’ve been to a boring wedding. Everything was lavish and beautiful, it must have cost a fortune. But the logistics were totally centered around the bride and groom and wedding party, not the guests. For example, they were that couple that sent out invitations for a 6:00pm wedding ceremony, but never planned on starting at 6, they told all the VIP’s (vendors, wedding party, etc.) that the ‘real’ start time was 6:30. So there Darling Husband and I are, punctual as usual – sitting in the blazing hot sun starting at 5:30 waiting for the ceremony to start. When the mother of the groom finally admitted what the bride had arranged, we were furious. Then finally cocktail hour started, but the line for the one small table of food was all the way around the venue and every single seat was taken by the guests who had sat in the back and got out first from the ceremony. So we spent the entire cocktail hour searching for somewhere to sit. Meanwhile the wedding party had a private cocktail hour away from the guests, from what I heard they had plenty of food. Then (sorry this is long) we finally got to sit in the reception area, but food didn’t arrive for another hour and there was no dancing in the meanwhile. So we sat at our table and made conversation for over an hour, there was nothing else to do. Finally dancing started, but they did all of the ‘special’ dances first: bride and groom, mother/son, father/daughter, wedding party only?? and finally it was our turn. But the music was not anything you could dance to – it was weird lounge music from their ipod’s.
Post # 13
I haven’t been to a boring wedding. Personally, I think that weddings are what you make of them. I’ve really only been to weddings where I am close to the bride or groom, so maybe that makes a difference. As long as there are friends and family and some sort of activity like games or dancing at the reception I have fun. A little booze helps too, but is not necessary. I can see how it might be a little boring if you didn’t know anyone and don’t like dancing or something like that, but as the bride it’s not your job to make sure every single person is having fun.
And some people just aren’t fun people or don’t enjoy the type of activities that are normally provided at weddings. The wedding I went to two weeks ago was SO fun, but there were still people sitting around at tables staring blankly and looking unhappy while most people were dancing and having fun. It wasn’t the bride and groom’s fault they were being lame, but I’m sure they went home saying ‘that was such a boring wedding’. Provide the activities that make you happy, and most people who care about you will make the best of whatever is provided. It will turn out amazing I’m sure, try not to keep stressing!
Post # 14
I’ve been to a boring wedding, but it had nothing to do with the budget. It was in the middle of the afternoon, no alcohol, no dancing, no music. The ceremony ended and the guests walked the 20 feet or whatever to where the reception was where we were immediately told to find a table and sit down, and were then treated to a reeeeeally really long slide show of the bride and groom, as babies, as children, as teens, as collegiates, as post-collegiates, as engaged… while the couple was off taking pictures. Lights down, no talking, face forward. After that there was light lunch, they served cupcakes, did toasts, etc. and that was it. The bride and groom were much more focused on themselves and their bridal party as opposed to socializing with people they saw less frequently, and there just wasn’t much to do besides make weird conversation with the people at the same table as you.
Post # 15
I’ve been to a boring ceremony. The officiant had all the personality of a limp sardine and her entire text was pretty much 40 different ways of explaining the legal definition of marriage. Very unromantic, very bland, and if it weren’t for a few quirky moments from the bride and groom, the whole thing would have almost been depressing.
But that was the only time I can think of where I was bored at a wedding. I’ve been to large, small, extravagant, low-budget, outdoor and indoor weddings, weddings where I’ve known tons of people and weddings where I’ve barely known anyone, and I’ve always had a good time.
Post # 16
I’ve been to a lot of weddings. I think the boredom would only set in when there was a lot of sit around and wait time. I was at a wedding once where the reception was immediately following, but the bride and groom, and bridal party didn’t show up for 2 hours. Apparently they went around town in there limo drinking for those two hours. The mom of the bride did not want to start anything until the bride and groom got there, so no food, no dancing, no bar-nada. Just sit around and wait. By the time the couple showed up everyone was cranky, some had even left. The mom was pissed, the bride was pissed because the mom was pissed and well-it went down hill from there. My advice is to keep to your time line, start the wedding on time, the reception on time, keep things moving. Don’t make your friends and family sit around and wait. That is the wedding killer.