- 2 years ago
My husband and i have been married almost 4 years and have been through heavy ups and downs during that time…questions of divorce, compatibility, etc. we did try a therapist together, but stopped because she wasn’t helping and I just didn’t feel like he was giving his all. A few months ago, I was seeing a therapist on my own and we put a timeline of deciding things through this month. Last month, she finally said remove the “deadline” and just have fun with him, see what happens.
I let go and started living again and things got good, but now I’m slowly slipping back into the same place, wondering if we grew apart or if we should stay together? Just because he treats me well, isn’t enough of a reason for me. I know marriages are not always sunshine and rainbows, but I sometimes feel since we met 10 years ago, we’ve grown into different people and are just really good friends now. We have a great house, never argue, no financial issues, etc. sounds too good to be true, so am I just bored and sabotaging us?
Our sex life has always been an issue (he isn’t all about it, I am and it’s my love language), we have our own interests but nothing huge that we share a passion for, our version of a “night out” is different, idk I’m in a funk again and feel like life is throwing me curve balls as a sign to man up and finally make a decision…but how do I leave a man who loves me, cares for me? I know it’s not fair to stay because I’m fearful of what will happen, but I’m more fearful that I’m overthinking everything and if I speak up, I’ll be making a mistake. On the other hand, I can’t keep wondering if this is right.
So for those of you married…do you still have a spark? Do you still feel madly in love? Do you ever feel like this or get bored? I fear we have lost this all, but is that normal?