Post # 1
we’ve been together 2 years and a month, have talked about marriage on and off since about a year in but he wont ever give me a timeline. so frustrating! i have no doubts that it will happen eventually, i jist hate not knowing when. he knows i want *ideally* 2 kids before 30, a few years apart, and is fine with that. he also knows i want to be married a couple of years before kids, and engaged a year or 2 before that. so we need to get engaged some time in the next year for all this to happen. i just dont think he cam put it all together like that and understand he needs to get his act together! i csnt even feel excited about getting engaged because he just doesnt seem bothered at the moment. just needed a vent, thanks for reading 🙂
Post # 3
I hear you girl! I just had a talk with SO about our timeline and he doesn’t understand why the “when” matters. He wants to marry me, so I should leave it up to him. Men don’t understand that it’s hard on our end too!
How old are you? From your post, sounds like you are in your early 20’s? If your SO is around the same age, it can be tough to get younger men on a track of marriage and kids. They seem to be okay with hypothetical stuff, but they’re still young and want to act like a kid-not have them.
Post # 4
Blimey, I could have written this myself! I am 26, 27 in June and have the same timeline and we have been together the same amount of time! I wanted to be finished having my children by the time I was 30 but unless we get married like NOW and I have twins, that’s not going to happen!
I’m not like some of the other bees on here who seem to know it will happen soon, I have no idea at all. He could pop the question tomorrow…..or in 2 years!! And like yours, he does not show any signs of interest!
My SO is the same despite him being 35, he doesn’t get why I’d rather it be sooner rather than later. I’m leaving all marriage discussions until July, I will be 27 then and we can assess the timeline!
Post # 5
@memo: im 21, he’s 23. 22 and 24 in 6 months. i know im young and i dont need it all ‘right now’ i just wanna know when! lol. we’ve been living together about 18 months, and bought a house last month (im not on the mortgage yet) so i know its real. guess il just have to carry on waiting til he opens his eyes!
@angelinaUK: crap arent they! i think he’s under the impression that when you get engaged, you must get married tomorrow! ha. when i bring it up he’s like ‘theres no rush to get married’ cant get it in his head that actually im not asking for the marriage for maybe 3 years?!