Post # 1
Ladies, I need your opinions. Our wedding is going to be in the morning, ceremony at 8:30 and a lunch reception. I originally did not want to do too much with the grand entrance of the couple – just us walking in and waving to everyone. And for the first dance, I just wanted a nice simple slow dance. I didn’t really want to put on a show for the guests.
Yesterday, I was running through the program with my day of coordinator, and he basically insisted I have a Grand entrance, and to plan out a choreographed first dance. When I said I just wanted to walk in, he said, the guests got out of bed early in the morning for you. You need to wake them up, put on a show, and set a lively tone for the reception. From what I understood, it seemed like if I didn’t do it, my wedding would just be boring and my guests would just be sleepy.
Is this right? The reception is pretty much just a party to celebrate the wedding right? I’m feeding them, and I have a band. Is that not enough? 🙁
Post # 3
It’s enough! I don’t want a grand entrance…no silly dance moves, quirkiness… we’re funny people, just not what I want for my day. Don’t feel pressured, stick to your plans and comfort!
Post # 4
I ditto vintagekay! it’s what YOU (and your FI) wants that count. a wedding is defined as a celebration of (your) marriage… not a show worthy of youtube or vegas. i’m nervous about my early wedding as well : but it comforts me to know it’s more of what I want, and not what I need to do to cater to my guests’ expectations.
Post # 5
Do not be bullied into doing something you don’t want to you. If a grand enterence isn’t genuine to you as a couple, don’t worry about it.
Post # 6
Can I just ask why your ceremony is so early?
Post # 7
Do what you want! Ditto everyone — don’t be bullied into putting on a false show. If that’s not you, that’s not you.
We’re having a morning wedding also 10:30 with brunch after. We’re doing 1st look and bridal party photos beforehand.
I do wonder why your ceremony will be quite so early? Keep in mind that you may have some stragglers and outright LATENESS since its that early. plus, that might end up being stressful on you. What time would you and your bridal party have to get up and get ready in order for you to be at the ceremony site by 8;30. and don’t dare be late — if your guests get there that early for you, you absolutely have to be on time and ready to go.
Post # 8
@KathPuj: no, please don’t do the “show.” Please.
I think of morning weddings as being classy and sophisticated with none of the modern aspects of The Show (you know, The Entrance. The First Dance. The Cake Cut. The Garter Pull.) I guarantee that The Duchess of Cambridge didn’t have a “Grand Entrance” to her wedding breakfast or any of the other events that Americans think are necessary.
Suggest to your wedding planner that he acquire Some Imagination to put on a wedding that is not full of the the stale same ole same ole.
Post # 9
No, I think it’s a little strange actually when there is a “show”. Just do what you’re comfortable with. Your coordinator sounds quite flamboyant about weddings but that’s not my style.
Post # 10
Nothing that entails flapjacks and mimosas can be boring, tell the coordinator to shut up and stock up on syrup!
Post # 11
@Nona99: A lady after my own heart.
Post # 12
@FauxPas2012: This. Exactly.
Plus, if not having a grand entrance and choreographed first dance is not ok, then my wedding was super boring! Because we did neither!
Post # 13
@Meowkers: It was the only available time slot for the day and church that I wanted. Not my preference, but I think at least after the wedding the guests would still have the rest of the day for other stuff.
@ThisDeluxeLife: I know! They told me I have to be ready for make up at 5am. Hehe
Thanks everyone! I feel much better about the wedding I want 🙂 Your words give me strength! lol
Post # 14
@KathPuj: The guests will get up to see a wedding (two people they love uniting in marriage), not a [email protected] floor show. Do what you want. A wedding is a wonderful occasion in and of itself. I’ll add, no dance is better than a bad dance.
Post # 16
I think you should kick it up a notch and do magic tricks! Pull a bunny out of a hat! Saw your husband in two!
Seriously, do what makes you feel comfortable. Your wedding isn’t a show. A badly done (and I’ve never seen one that done well) grand entrance is excruciating to watch.