(Closed) boring receptions… leave early?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The last couple of weddings I’ve been to we have left early because there was NO food and the weddings were set around dinnertime! I HAVE to eat something!

Post # 18
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@MrsSkeletonKey:  I like your attitude, I try as well, even if its not my thing

VERY LOUD music is definitely a turn off for me

I think it’s rude to stay just for dinner and then leave, the couple wants to see their loved ones having agood time, leaving right after dinner feels like you were there just for the free meal. 

I tend to stay a good while, and have closed out my fair share of weddings… 

Post # 20
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wouldn’t leave out of boredom, but I would leave if I was physically uncomfortable. If it were outside during the summer or winter with no respite from the weather or if the room was too small for the crowd and I was almost touching other people all night. Those kinds of things. I’ll sit and make awkward conversation with strangers all night if I have to rather than disappoint the bride and groom. 

Post # 21
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’ve never left a wedding early and don’t think I ever could…..I always try to make the best of it 

Post # 22
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

For me it all depends on my relationships with bride and groom. If it is a “have to go…or it is friend of a friend wedding etc.” wedding…and I am not that close with them..I can leave if I get tired, bored,  or music is too loud, or AC is blowing in my head and I am freezing, or they play hip-hop all night..

BUT..if I am super close with bride and groom..they can do whatever they want, they can serve food I don’t like, and play music I hate…I will stay till the end regardless..

Post # 23
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d add that in addition to the open bar, have a way for me to get home easily without driving so I can enjoy the open bar.

I went to a beautiful wedding in Connecticut a few weeks ago. But it was in a tiny town about 25 min from the nearest hotel. It was mostly my FI’s college buddies so I stayed sober to drive us back to the hotel. I suppose we could have cabbed it, but it would have been expensive and we would have had to figure out how to get our car in the morning. We didn’t leave early because Fiance was having a blast but I spent the last sober hour just waiting for him to be ready to go. 

So have the reception within walking distance or an easy cab ride to a hotel, or provide transportation to a hotel. That’ll let people party without worrying how they’ll get home.

Post # 24
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’ve left two weddings early.  The first one, it was because I rode there with a friend and her boyfriend wanted to leave early.  I really wanted to stay!!

@Anna10-05-2014:  You’re spot on with the seating chart comment.  The second wedding I left early, I bailed because of a seating issue.  I went solo and only knew a few people there.  My friends had to leave to catch flights (we were all new grads so no vacation time and the wedding was in a small town, far from a big airport).  I sat alone for a half hour after they left  and no one talked to me so then I left too.  That sucked! 

Post # 25
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Anna10-05-2014:  All of the things you said, plus being tired and wanting to get home to my puppy. I can’t imagine us staying anywhere past 10 PM. God, we’re old, lol.

Post # 26
4438 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Anna10-05-2014:  I’ve definitely left a boring reception early.  The first one to come to mind DH and I left early because the DJ played nothing but old people songs.  I wanted to dance but I refuse to do so to terrible songs.  When we made suggestions to the DJ he said ‘he’d get there later in the night’ but by that time I’m guessing there was no one left to dance to the good songs…. *SNOOZE!*

Post # 27
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Anna10-05-2014:  Fi suggested not telling the guests we had the venue booked til 1am,  because “in case we get bored, we can leave”   Umm.. Seriously?!!?! hahaha!

Post # 29
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’ve left several weddings early

1. Uncomfortable temperatures/bugs/wind (I will leave an outdoor wedding earlier than an indoor one)

2. Not enough food – literally, they ran out. We left to get dinner.

3. Endless “stuff” and not enough party and dancing (over an hour of speeches!)

4. Really loud hip hop/club music. Not to sound like a granny, but that’s not what gets the crowds going where I’m from.


Post # 30
9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I commented earlier but I thought I’d voice another support for good seating assignments. I went to a wedding where the only people I knew were the bride and groom. And they were, understandably, pretty busy most of the night. I’d met the groom’s brother and bride’s mother once each. So I thought it might be boring. But they put me at a table with the groom’s brother and some other people that we really got along with and we all ended up having a great time and at the end of the night, the entire table squeezed into the photo booth for a group shot! It could have been pretty lame, but the seating chart totally saved the day!

Post # 31
8574 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Totally agree, music & food are a must.


Nobody wants to sit around with nothing to do, that’s super boring.


There’s only been 1 wedding I left early, and that was my aunt’s.


She had a family-style dinner, which consisted of 1 slice of roast beef [think arbys roast beef, not like a chunk of it], green beans & mashed potatoes. She had too many seated at a table, [12 instead of 8], and because of this, there wasn’t enough food to go around, nor was there any extras.


Me and my mom both ate a spoonfull [like, eating spoon full] of green beans, that was it.


My entire family left early to get mcdonalds before they closed.


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