Post # 1
We are planning to have two wedding ceremonies, one in the U.S. for my family and one in Thailand for his family. It is just not feasible for either group to travel to either wedding. For the U.S. wedding, I am wanting something small (Less than 40 people) and nice. We are considering having the reception at a very nice/expensive restaurant with a 4 course dinner and an open bar. We aren’t planning to have dancing or games, but I am worried that people are going to think this is the most boring wedding ever.
A little information on the restaurant:
We will rent out the penthouse which has floor to ceiling windows which overlook a lake and mountains. It will be a very romantic evening reception, and is the kind of restaurant where each meal will come out to at least $250. We are definitely not trying to cheap out!
Also, we will be having a few kids there, and I will be paying full price to customize a “fancy kid’s meal,” which will be completely tailored to the food I know these children eat (salmon, macaroni and cheese, miso soup, edamame, and mixed vegetables). I also plan to have coloring sheets/games for the kids and to let their parents know we are totally ok with electronic devices to keep them entertained.
Please give me your very honest opinions on if you would enjoy this type of wedding, or would it be a complete snooze fest?
Post # 2
Sounds lovely. It doesn’t sound boring but the vibe will be different and may not go on as long. Will there be music?
Also, these children have sophisticate palettes.
Post # 3
It sounds fun to me! who doesn’t love a boozy, swanky dinner? I don’t need a live band and a dance floor to have a great time, esp not when I’m celebrating someone’s marriage.
Post # 4
Sounds awsome to me – can I come?
Post # 5
This sounds like every guests dream. No awkward situations, not being forced to dance or endure the elements of an outside wedding. Be sure to include one or two speeches though and make your rounds. Otherwise, a fancy dinner is a terrific way to spoil your guests.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
This sounds absolutely perfect to me and I wish we would have gone this route. I’d take good food and company in a relaxed, beautiful setting over traditional wedding festivities any day. Throw in some nice background music and thats even better. But it depends on the type of vibe you prefer.
Post # 7
It’s different, but does not sound boring, and will likely end earlier without DJ or other distraction. It’d be cool if there was a live band at the restaurant and guests can check it out, but not to the point where it’d distract them to a different room.
I will say that the fancy dinner for kids seems like a waste of money when they 1) wouldn’t appreciate it and 2) easily be super happy with what is typical for kids chicken tenders/fries/etc. although mac n cheese is awesome…unless of course these kids have palettes to actually appreciate the fancy menu.
Post # 8
cassiegirl : Yes, these kids don’t eat like typical American children. The parents have always had the kids eat what they eat, so even at 2-5 years old, they eat sushi, salmon, poke, mussles, escargot, etc!
Post # 9
FrenchToastnCoffee : These kids don’t eat PB&J, chicken fingers, or most typically kid friendly foods (with the exception of mac and cheese 🙂 ) . Their parents have always been strict about their diets, and have only exposed them to the foods they eat!
I think you are right, and it will end earlier. When I have eaten at this restaurant before, we easily spent two hours there just based on the flow. I think I am ok with that!
Post # 10
tiffanybruiser : cassiegirl : cbgg : bridetobe2018 : heavenlyflower : Thank you all so much! You are making me feel so much more comfortable with this idea! 🙂
Post # 11
Not my ideal personally, but I do think it sounds like a really enjoyable evening. As long as you are aware that it won’t last as long as a ‘typical’ reception, but dinners do tend to drag out a bit when the food is good and the company is good anyway, so it won’t be a quick event either.
Are you doing sit-down meals? My only thought would be to look at how you are serving, and whether you could do passed appetizers while people mingle. It sounds like a big room with great views, so it could be nice for guests to have the option to wander around enjoying the view and some nibbles while chit-chatting? I only say this because sit-down dinners can be horrid if you’re seated with people you don’t get along with super well. But you know your crowd, so I’m really just thinking out loud 🙂
Post # 12
Lots of people go out to dinner and have an enjoyable time. A wedding reception is pretty much just a big dinner party. Music and dancing and games are just optional extras. People know how to amuse themselves and enjoy each other’s company at all other kinds of dinner parties without music and dancing and games. It’s only boring if THEY are boring.
Post # 13
i will always attend a nice dinner with drinks.
Post # 14
annabananabee : “It’s only boring if THEY are boring.”
Precisely, well said!
Post # 15
I’d go to a $250 dinner no problem.