(Closed) Born in the USA… And what happens next

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 106
3356 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

lolita39: The tax thing was just about maternity leave. If I really wanted to talk about what I really think of this maternity leave thing, I think we’ll be arguing forever because you definitely won’t like what I have to say. The rest of it was about my agreement with everything Zhabeego said about pregnant parking, which I feel you’ve zoned in on so I’ve continued to talk about that.

No, you can’t claim disability just because you have diabetes. The diabetes has to be crippling and cause you to be unable to work for 12 months before you can claim disability. That’s why “a tad too little insulin in my system” is not enough, just like “I’m pregnant” is not good enough. The effects of pregnancy that you have cited, that can generally cause the woman to be severely crippled/unable to perform work duties, then sure. “My back hurts because of this baby” is NOT a disability situation.

And yet, I have heard so many stories of pregnant women screaming at those who park in pregnant parking. Sorry, they’re not legal the way handicapped parking is.

Post # 107
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

strawbs:  You most certainly can in fact apply for short term disability if your GD is bad enough that you need special consideration. 

Also, the whole “my back hurts” scenario could be REALLY BAD for some women. Especially if they have sciatica. When then, if it’s bad enough. Yes, their doctor can write them out of work and they can apply for short term disability. 

No, pregnancy parking isn’t legally enforced. But it’s a nice gesture. I’m not sure where that’s being lost in translation. 

If you have no compassion for pregnant women or women with children that’s up to you. There’s also another thread discussing this, so feel free to chime in. 

Go ahead and talk about maternity leave. I’m certainly not stopping you. That’s the point of the thread. Just be prepared to follow up with well researched facts and not simple loathing for pregnant women/ families. 

Post # 108
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

julies1949:  The United States of America and Canada share the continent of North America. The USA is also known as America. Canada is not. 

Post # 109
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Zhabeego:  You’re coming off as very angry in your posts. It seems some of your coworkers have bad work ethics and you have to take up the slack, it’s not because they’re parents (having kids didn’t make them unethical).  Maternity leave is not paid by the government, so it’s not coming out of your taxes; it’s not robbing you of any money. Companies pay for it, and if you feel so strongly about it, work for a small company that is not legally obligated to even offer an unpaid leave.

I work for a huge corporation, in my site only there are over 30,000 people and I constantly interact with people from different ages, parents, non-parents. There will always be unethical people that will let their coworkers take the slack for their work, and they come from all different family backgrounds. One of my managers is a working mom, she has 2 kids, a newborn and a toddler, and she works 11 hour days almost every day. There is also a recent college grad that barely makes 8 hours and is constantly taking coffee breaks. Do not stereotype and lump all working parents as having the same work ethics, your experience, nor mine is representative of the whole population, and you can’t extrapolate and make conclusions about all parents based on your personal experience.

Post # 110
330 posts
Helper bee

gingerkitten:  I’m not so sure how I feel about mandatory maternity because that makes it so you cannot opt out if you wanted. Although the history discribed in the article sounds amazing, I’m sure some people in the US have it this way in some aspects.

Personally, Im not TTC but I do have a plan of sorts. I’m originally from the caribbean and while I wont be laid up per se, my mom and my SO, hopefully FH, will take up slack around the house. I’ve had these conversations with the both of them and this is what we collectively decided. Also I’m fortunate to work for a firm where I will have 4 months of paid leave at my current salary (gross 2100/wk) which broken down is 8 weeks parental leave, 6 weeks disability and 2-4 weeks vacation, after which I can take up to a year of unpaid leave (which i couldnt see myself doing) I think that the policy varies from place to place and ultimately is based on the annual earnings of said place.

Post # 111
47193 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Taimane:  really???

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