- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
Regular bee going anon since my co-workers also use this site.
I really need some advice and how to move forward. My co-workers and I all get along and I am very happy with my job. I work at a law office as a paralegal, which I started in August. For the last couple of weeks, the attorney I work for, has been asking very innapropriate questions about my personal life. It started out as simple as how many guys I had “been” with before marrying my husband. In which I replied that DH was the only person I dated since we met right after high school. He then laughed and said that I never got to experience my “slutty” years in college. I did think it was kind of rude and did not reply to that comment. I also decided not to put too much thought into it because I noticed that him and some of my other co-workers talked about there personal life during lunch.
But I feel like he has been getting a little too comfortable around me. For example, last week he asked how my progress was on a case we are working on. When I tld him I had finished the documents sooner than I originally thought, he said he was proud of me put his hand on my lower back. I felt somewhat uncomfortable since I thought this was a little inapropriate. He has asked some more questions about my personal life, but I usually just stay quiet or give one worded questions, in which I though this would be enough for him to realize that I’m not comfortable with these kind of questions.
Then there was this mornings conversation. He asked me to accompany him to starbucks, which is right across the street from the office. The walk there was fine, talking about how our weekends went. But then on our way back, he asked what kind of guys I was attracted to. He then went on to say “guys with big dicks?”. I was absolutely disgusted with his question and just laughed it off.
I have told DH about the past incidents I’ve been having with the attorney, but I’m very nervous about having to tell him about what happened today. I know he will get angry and tell me to quit my job. But the problem is, apart from the attorney, I actually like my job. It took me almost a year to land my job, and we can’t really afford to live on one income at the moment.
I haven’t talked to anyone in the office about this. I’m also hesistant to talk to my supervisor since I don’t want to jeopardize my job and then make my boss mad. I could start looking for another job, but going to interviews will be difficult since I work an 8-5. The attorney is also my age, 27. Thought that infor may help.
Any advice would be appreciated.