Boss Keeps Saying He Hopes I'm Not Pregnant

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 16
Hostess
8205 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

kristin36890 :  I have had this before. From a couple of bosses. That’s what happens when you are bright, brilliant at your job and have dem girl bits! I think the last time my boss said something to me along the lines of “don’t get pregnant” I said “You can’t say stuff like that in the workplace!” in a jokey way but actually like – for real. My last female boss said the same thing once and said, have a nice holiday, don’t come back pregnant to which my response was. I won’t but  I may come back with a blue mohawk and a face tattoo! – Ugh, people really shouldn’t be allowed to say things like that, if you were shit at your job they probably wouldn’t! 

Post # 18
Member
35 posts
Newbee

As an HR employee you should know that these comments are borderline illegal. He’s basically creating a hostile work environment for you with theses underhanded remarks. Ive seen so many cases where women, especially engaged and married women, are discriminated against in the work place because the possibility of pregnancy. This is not okay and I strongly reccommend you keep a detailed log of these comments in case you do end up deciding to get pregnant (or have a surprise pregnancy) and he tries to let you go; Im sure you know that sometimes employers will find small reasons to fire you when the real reason is not valid. Best of luck.

Post # 19
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m getting out now, but I’m also in a small business led by a CEO who would make these comments. “Ugh, now that you’re engaged you’ll be too distracted to work well.” “You shouldn’t be getting married.” “Well, if you must get married, at least wait on having kids.” Basically I’m only valuable to him as a single woman (which makes sense, considering other things he’s done to me – but that’s another story).

Some small businesses are fine, but in my experience and from stories I’ve heard, they tend to be very insular and breed cultural toxicity when led by the wrong people. Your bosses sound like the wrong people. Small businesses under 50 employees also don’t have to abide by the FMLA, so if you do become pregnant while working there, you won’t have the protections and leave you’d have with a larger company.

I’m not close to TTC, but I made sure that the next company I landed at would be a better cultural and legal fit for when I am. It can take months or even years to find the right job. If I were you, I’d start looking. Good luck!

Post # 20
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017

What a dick. Not only are the comments “annoying and intrusive” as you say, but they are illegal in a wealth of jurisdictions. I have begun handling similar situations by adopting the same “joking” cadence and stating a fact that would be equally concerning if not a joke — that’s what your boss is doing. I’d do it back.

 

“I hope you’re not pregnant! That wouldn’t be exciting…”
“I know, right?! Then I’d have to a find a lawyer to handle my discrimination suit!”

 

Ha. Ha. Ha… 

 

 

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