(Closed) Bosses who are work-obsessed

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do they do those “suggestions” at all? We have an online system once a year where we anonymously rate our bosses and can make suggestions.

Could you make any through HR? haha.

I hate forced work events. Sorry, my own family and friends are WAY more fun to chill with than my coworkers =]

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My old bosses (married couple) were EXACTLY like that (especially the wife AKA “president” of their business). It was tough working there (almost 4 years) because she was VERY stubborn and hard to deal with and would milk as many hours out of me & my co-workers as possible. I had to get out of there. I was working minimum of 55 hours a week and I felt like I was going insane. (Not exaggerating).

I get where you’re coming from, trust me. I also understand the “guilty” feelings at having thoughts like those, but hey, you have to think about what’s best for you. YOU don’t own the company, therefore you shouldn’t have to be there all the time. I think people that own their own businesses practially sell their souls.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

I would die if they did this here. But I also would’ve taken the 5k 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Welcome to the investment banking industry. Except we work ALL THE TIME, so we slowly lose touch with our actual friends, and our coworkers become the only people we ever see. And all of those fun cocktail hours, happy hours, dinners, etc are mandatory too. Honestly, I’m lucky that I like the vast majority of my coworkers or else I would go crazy. 

PS And speaking of bosses who love their jobs, some senior people will stay till 1-2AM because they’re so into it and want to make the work product perfect. I guess they’re lucky to love their jobs so much, but I would not want to be their wife/girlfriend/kid. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@girl with a ring – those people staying til 1-2 am every single night probably have to stay at this point, b/c the people in their lives are sick of that nonsense. Yikes!

If we were offered cash to leave, I would be out the door with cash in hand before they finished their sentence. I’m SO glad we don’t have work events outside of work hours. I suspect they realize that they’d get very little attendance. We don’t even like going on lunch trips, b/c most of us would rather sit in the car in the parking lot than talk to our coworkers for another 30 mins a day. That’s what i just got back from doing, haha.  I saw a few cars also parked along the back corner walls of the parking lot – i’m def not the only one.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly, I would start looking for a different job if possible.  It sounds like the pay is so-so, they are very stingy with paid time off, and they “reward” you in ways that actually diminish your quality of life.

The offer of 5k to quit if you don’t “love it here” is irritating.  You live in Chicago- that would cover what, like 2-3 months rent (and nothing else)?  In this economy no one would take that offer unless (1) they don’t really “need” to work in the first place or (2) they already had another job lined up.  A job search can easily take several months… 5k is not much of a safety net.

Your boss just sounds out of touch, which is never good.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Yikes, when I rad your post I thought to myself “You work for Michael!”

I would have taken the 5k, but I live in a place where that would stretch a lot further.

Maybe just pull a sickie so you don’t have to go to this dinner.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

My old boss LOVED working too.  She didn’t have a family or significant other though, so she never understood that sometimes you just want to be HOME.  We weren’t forced to go to company events though…that sounds horrible!

It’s sad that even your managers are on your side but the CEO just doesn’t see it.  Not sure what to tell you…I’d be tempted to write an “anonymous” letter to him and just say…”we’d LOVE our jobs more if you’d stop making us socialize with each other and give us more time off!” Or better yet, get a petition going around the office!  That’d be risky, but the thought would sure cross my mind!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not to play the devils advocate but what else would you have your boss do? It sounds like your boss cares about having people who want to be there working for him. I am not sure what exactly this dinner is comprised of but the fact that he thought to do this is way more than soooo many bosses. I mean it is not really your boss’ responsibility to care about your life outside of work. I personally think that the 5k was a generous offer for anybody looking for a way out of working there.

As for the dinner – try to get to know your collegues better and maybe you will find something you do like about them.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What could your boss do to make working a better experience and more productive for both of you? Telecommuting, a different schedule where maybe you come in super early but also get to leave super early, a change in responsibilities, etc?

I know that my one of my all time favorite bosses allowed me to come in at 11 but I also stayed until like 7 or 8 most days but I was so much happier and my work improved and ultimately my boss was happier. (what can I say – I am just not a morning person!) A lot of bosses hear the moaning and groaning but if you give them an alternative (other than just not doing whatever it is) I find that it usually benefits everyone.

If I were you I would suggest maybe an employee appreciation Friday where everyone got off work early or there was catered lunch instead of a dinner.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry.  That’s so ignorant of him to think that just because you didn’t take $5,000 (which I don’t know how much you make but that would last my husband and I less than 2 months) that you are in love with the job.  The economy is poor and you couldn’t expect to find a job in 2 months without having a backup plan.

My old boss was similar in a way.  He seemed to think that we were really happy working at our job and that working 12 hours days during tax season was made up for with a big bonus (there are some things money can’t make up for ever).

I don’t have any suggestions really but I hope you survive the dinner tomorrow!

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