- 1 year ago
Last night I went out with my husband and coworker’s to celebrate a birthday.
It was me, my husband, 4 female coworker’s, and my boss’s SO.
We’re all really good friends with my boss and her SO, so even though my boss was out of town, her SO came anyways.
We were all having a good time dancing and talking and drinking. Boss’s SO is a flirty guy, and even when my husband was present would be a little flirty, but he did it to everyone. That’s just who he is. Then my husband left. Boss’s SO asked for a ride home at the end of the night, I said sure since we both live close to one another. I ended up getting drinking more than I planned and decided I couldn’t drive.
The bar was closing so it was time to go home. My coworker’s aren’t in sight. I tried texting and calling, but couldn’t get a hold of them. So boss’s SO tried to get us an Uber or Lift, but couldn’t so he says he’s good to drive. I asked the bouncer if boss’s SO seemed fine and he said yes.
On the way to his car he tried to pick me up and tickle me. He does this with everyone so I brushed it off and told him to settle down. Then he started making comments about him taking me back to his place. I laughed it off. I totally thought he was joking! Him and my husband were just talking and hanging out! I didn’t think he’d make a pass on me.
So we’re in his car now and his tone completely changed from fun and playful to warm, soft, and seductive. It made me a little uncomfortable, but his comments were worse. He started saying how pretty I am and how I do great work (he owns the business that my boss is the manager of) and blah blah blah. I say thanks and keep looking forward. He grabs my hand and starts stoking it. I take it back and text my coworker’s to call me.
Then we get off the freeway and he gets into the wrong lane (he’s taken me home before). So I tell him that he needed to be in the other lane because he had to turn at the light. He says, “Oh. Are you sure I need to go into the other lane? My place is this way…” luckily at that moment my husband calls and asks where I’m at. I tell him that I’m right down the street and that boss’s SO drove me home.
We pull up to my place and I thanked him for the ride and to get home safe. He says you’re welcome “but now going home won’t be any fun…” and he reaches for my hand again. I bounce out of the car and go inside and tell my husband how uncomfortable I was. I was shaking I was so uncomfortable.
I know boss’s SO wouldn’t have done anything without my consent (drunken consent…) which is why he was fishing so hard. But the guy is 13 years older than me!
Reading it back, it sounds so mellow and that I’m over reacting… 😓 But I’m not. I just don’t know how to accurately write down all my feelings of what happened.
I don’t know what I’m looking for really… what would you do if you were me? What should I do? I see this man regularly and my boss is a wonderful lady who is my friend…