(Closed) Boston Catholics – Help!

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Can you ask the parish where you were baptized or confirmed to bless your marriage?  They keep records.  I know because we had to have my records sent from the church I was baptized at to the church I’m getting married at.


Post # 4
5 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well, you can just call a parish and join.  A lot of parishes like you to be a member in order to have the wedding there.  I am a member of Gate of Heaven in South Boston, and it was as simple as making a phone call.  I’m not getting married there, but they gave me a letter saying I was a member of that Church so that I could get married at my parent’s Church. 

I think the bigger roadblock might be that your Fiance isn’t catholic.

This website is pretty informative.  http://catholicweddinghelp.com/index.htm  But I think you’d have to join somewhere and then kind of call around to different Churches and get specific info, each Church is different.


Good luck!


Post # 5
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@KateyBC:  I’m marrying a non-Catholic and the only thing that is different is that the priest has to fill out a different form.  My uncle is a Catholic priest and he will be marrying us.  The form has to be approved of course, but there are rare instances when a non-Catholic marrying a Catholic is not approved.

The form asks about the background, what religion the person sees themselves as, and one of the more important questions on the form is if the couple is getting married in order to have children and that they promise to raise these children Catholic. 

Post # 7
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know how far north from Boston you’re willing to travel, but we joined St. Patrick’s in Stoneham when we moved here and we are getting married here in July. They are a VERY open minded and forward thinking church and we LOVE it here. We were able to call and “join” so that we could get married here. They will marry you if your FH is not a Catholic. We just had pre-cana last weekend and one couple was interreligious. You can be married by a Deacon and have a marriage rite ceremony, which is actually what we are doing. Deacon Frank is AMAZING. Good luck!

Post # 8
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Something to keep in mind is that any Catholic church will require you to have a letter of permission from your “home parish” to get married there. That means that you will have to register with a parish in order to get married in the Catholic church, even if it is not the church where you end up marrying.  (If you get married in your home parish, you do not need a permission letter, though you would obviously need to be a registered parishioner).

I know that the Cathedral of the Holy Cross in Southie allows non-parishioners to be married there, but you have to bring in your own priest.  

My home parish while I lived in Boston was St Mary’s in Brookline (it’s on Harvard Ave, towards the Brookline Village end, and the 66 stops about a block away). Father Brian is great, and the parish has an active young adults group. Fr Brian did my permission letter for my wedding (in South Bend). 

I’m kind of a church-geek, and have been to masses all over the city, so depending on your neighborhood and what you are looking for in a church, I probably have a recommendation. 

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