(Closed) Boston Pre Cana

posted 13 years ago in Boston
Post # 18
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Newbee

How did you register for the pre cana at the Paulist Center? I’ve been googling it all evening :(! Doesnt come up from the Archdiocese website either. Thanks in advance!

Post # 20
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Newbee

Thanks!!!! Sent them an email already!

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Glad you found a place that works for you!!

Post # 22
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Wannabee

Not to be nagative, but all of you sound like the marriage prep, or pre cana is a chore. It makes me wonder why you are getting married in the Catholic Church to begin with?

My husband and I did Pre Cana and got so much out of it. Our marriage is so much better because of our faith.

Also, to djmaddiebluedog, I’m a Franciscan-a Secular Franciscan, (a married person who belongs to the Third Order of St Francis) While we Franciscans are welcoming and open minded, we do follow the teachings of the Catholic Church and homosexual "marriage" isn’t one of them. I’m not sure where you got married, but you have the wrong idea about Franciscans. 

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

mary600 – we feel like we got a lot out of pre cana as well, but we didn’t want to be sharing our personal feelings, hopes, dreams, fears, etc with a room full of strangers, which is why we were drawn to the Paulist Center. 

As for djmaddiebluedog’s explanation of Franciscans, it seems to me that that is more the mindset of the Paulist Center… that they welcome anyone who wants to come into their church, regardless of sexual preference, and that’s the way I personally think it should be.

Post # 26
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Wannabee

My fiancé and I did the Marriage Preparation Course at the Paulist Center in Boston in September 2009.

We liked the program very much and it only lasted one day.  The exercises were done only within the couple and there were no awkward, group sharing moments.  We had already talked about all of the issues that were discussed during the day, but some of the games they did with us were fun.

My fiancé is atheist and was doing the Pre Cana for my sake.  There were a lot of Catholic/Non-Cathoic couples and everyone seemed very liberal and open minded, including the Paulist Father and the older married couple that helped out that day.

I agree with everything that @Erindesmar said and would highly recommend the Paulist Center.  The priest also dismissed everyone early, although it was a horrible, rainy day.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Question, for those of you who did Pre-Cana at the Paulist Center….!

 

I just came across their website and noticed they have a variety of dates. My fiance and I are thinking we should finally sign up for a class.

Question is…do you have to have a church already “setup” for your wedding, with a date and all before you do pre-cana…or can we just sign up for pre-cana now and in the meantime, pick a church/date????

 

Thanks!

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

regarding my above post, I guess this goes for any catholic church in general

Post # 29
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Wannabee

@mary600: I have to agree with you Mary600, In reading this I was also wondering why these couples are getting married in the Catholic Church to begin with?

Erindesmar has stated in reply “we are both spiritual, but not in any way religious.” She is marrying in the Catholic Church to avoid offending her parents. She wants a pre-cana program that  is “not overly religious (ie, we live together and don’t want to be shunned).”

While it is admirable to honor your parents and try not to offend them by marrying outside the Church, are they not offended you are cohabitating?

I am sure there are reasons each Catholic person has as to why they choose to reject the teachings of their faith, the beliefs of their parents and community, and go their own way…but I believe it takes a mature person to really reflect on these decisions humbly and evaluate if they made the right decision…and correct it if they did not.

Clearly the evidence shows that cohabitation is a bad idea for those who wish to have a successful live-long marriage. Clearly cohabitation (aka fornication/pre-marital sex/”living in sin” as it used to be called before 50-75% of us started doing this in the past 20-30 years) is contrary to a healthy Christian spirituality (Bible/Tradition)

Couples who live together before marriage actually have a 50% greater chance of divorce than those who don’t. Living together before marriage also indicates a great likelihood of an unhappy marriage later according to the Rudgers Marriage Project research.

I hope those that read this will at least be open-minded and give a chance to the true spirit of a real Marriage Preparation Program such as “Pre-Cana” and not seek out a watered down version of the program. I hope all of use will recognize that marriage is going to involve hard work and so will marriage discernment and preparation. In this age of divorce, engaged people need all the truth they can get, the real evidence about what prevents divorce and makes marriages strong (whether it comes from the Church or social sciences-they all confirm that cohabitation (and yes, the use of contraception and pornography) seroiously endangers your future happiness and invites the heartbreak of divorce) Also, divorce is far below 50% of the population for those who are strongly religious and marry someone of the same faith. So maybe becoming religious and not just commiting to being spiritual…and sharing this with your fiancee can increase your future wedded bliss Things like by going to Church and praying together makes for a better chance according to sociological research on marriage. Sorry this is lenghty and also if I offend someone, this is my opinion offered in the spirit of helpfulness.

Here is a link to  this source info.  God bless, http://interfaithshaadi.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=category&id=83:ten-things-of-marriage&Itemid=78&layout=default

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