(Closed) Both changing our middle names

posted 4 years ago in Legal
Post # 2
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

ABusyBride:  That’s a cool idea!  You’re going to have to go through the courts, unfortunately. 

I dropped my last name (my middle name at the time is also a common last name) and added a new middle name when i turned 18.  We had to hire a lawyer and I had to go to court one day and swear I wasn’t changing my name to get out of prosecution of anything I’d done and that I wasn’t trying to hide from creditors (or something along those lines).  I was in court maybe 30 min and said two words to the judge.  Several hundred dollars later, I was legally my new name.

Post # 3
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547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Darling Husband is considering doing this. We’re already married and I have taken his last name and made my maiden name my middle name, and he’s considering taking my maiden name as his middle name – when we have kids, we might end up giving them all my maiden name for their middle names as well.

The process: when I changed my middle name, I had to file a name change petition with my local courthouse. It cost $180 (cost differs from state to state), but it was pretty straightforward and only took a couple of weeks to go through. Once you get the official document showing your name change, you can take that to the SS office to change your name there.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

ABusyBride:  In my state you could be whatever you wanted to be at the time you get your marriage LICENSE. You could be Santa Jingle Claus if you want! So I’ve never had a middle name and just gave myself one at the time I got married. See if you can just change it on your license. Other states might be more strict.

Post # 5
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731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

ABusyBride:  We are doing this too!!! I love this idea and I love having an alias. Ask your county clerk, but it shouldn’t be a problem at all. In some areas the man will have to go to court to have it changed. We live in CA, so all we need to do is sign the new name on the licence and get a name change service and we are done! I figure it will also be easiest cuz we won’t have to update as much. Glad to know another bee is doing this too!!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It’s what we’re doing! 🙂 

I know that it’s just a regular marriage name change for me, in Texas. It’s an option to drop your middle name and shift over maiden to take his last. It’s just a regular, cheap option when you go through the DMV, SS office, etc. I believe it would be for you, too. It’s very normal for women to do this.

The tricky part is with him. He will have to file a formal name change, and go through the court process. It’ll probably be around $250.

Post # 7
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323 posts
Helper bee

This is what I want to do as well! Taking eachother’s names seems so romantic to me and like you said, it’s the most fair you can get and you don’t have to deal with hyphenating. 

Post # 8
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2399 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yeah see we are both taking my maiden as an additonal middle… and I have no idea where to start on that.

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

lovelyruby:  ughhh isn’t that some bullshit. lol Easy name change for her pain in the ass for him. 🙁 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

herrera2016:  I know. And I know that it’s going to be a pain in the ass forever, any time he has to state that his name isn’t what he was born with just because it’s not the norm for men to change their names. I’m very glad it will be easy for me, at least. Glass is half full.

He’s willing to do it though, which I so so appreciate!! Especially since his parents are very upset at just the idea of their son changing his name. Ugh. 

Edit — Just saw your other post. We were planning to do this as well, for quite awhile. But it’s simply too complicated. There aren’t a lot of people with 4 names. So after I learned that I can easily drop my middle and make maiden my middle, I decided to do that instead of having t go to court over it and live with having 4 initials. 

I hope all this stuff gets easier as more men begin doing it!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  lovelyruby.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

lovelyruby:  She’s not taking his last name as her last though, she’s taking it as her middle name .

Glad to know Texas is easy with making maiden name your middle (will be changing mine in the next couple weeks).

Post # 12
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2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The process varies by state. In Wisconsin, you just put the new name, however you want it, on the forms. I moved my maiden name to my middle name, and dropped my original middle name. For him though, he’ll have to go through the court system in all likelihood.

Post # 13
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3483 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

heputaringonit:  Oooh. That is a great idea. But yes very complicated. It’s a formal name change process. Fill out the forms, pay the fees, they’ll give you a court date, and the judge will stamp it. 

Post # 14
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Funny little story about name changes- our marriage application got denied the first time because I put a maiden name on the form, but put I’d never been married and assumed it was an error on my part.  Smh.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I changed my middle name after I got married the first time.  I substituted my maiden name for the middle.  All I had to do was carry our wedding license and SS card to the SS office and it took about 5 minutes.

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