(Closed) Both changing our names? Story as follows…

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I do agree with you about why you should change your name when he doesn’t. This is a unique situation that not many would come across. It is still a family name and it is not to be taken as a kick in the teeth to your FI’s step grandfather. 

My Fi really likes my last name. I think he would seriously consider taking it except that his parents would be oh so offended. Your Fiance may also highly value his parents opinion (seems pretty normal for most guys) and it may carry a lot of weight in his decision. 

It is most important for you to present your case. Let him know that you think it is fair for both of you to change your last name in this day and age and that it is still a family name. Other people with opinions about it will get over it a lot faster than those who are changing the name. 

Post # 5
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should listen very closely to your fiance’s feelings on this one. If you do this, I think it’s important you’re both enthusiastic about it. Even if you don’t 100% agree with your FI’s reasons for holding back (like his dad’s lack of total support), it’s important to respect where he’s coming from. It might seem like he’s caring more about what his family thinks, but deep-down, maybe he kinda agrees with them.


This is a huge change, and unconventional, which is fantastic and inspiring if you’re both in agreement, but if one person is gung-ho and the other is less so, then it kinda loses the meaning.

Post # 6
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Can you guys hyphenate, like Finnegan-Noel? Or is that too much.

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