(Closed) Both Dads are deceased. Something other than a dad/daughter dance?

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 17
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

@Owl_Doctor:  Oh, I should have also mentioned…
We are doing an “In Loving Memory” section in the program. Also, their wedding photos will be on display and we are doing a floral sash for FI’s mom on a chair at the ceremony, in her favorite colors.


Post # 18
2615 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@Reeniero:  we did anniversry dance too- the lady got a bouquet( i had 5 bridesmaids when i made the intial consultation contract- but at the wedding i had 4.. so i just had the extra bouquet for that dance winner- the guy in the couple got a cigar and gift certificate to a fancy restuarant for the two of them.

Post # 19
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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@Owl_Doctor:  I’m so sorry you had to find him that way. I was the last person from my family to see mine. I had a school trip so I was up early and got to have breakfast with him that morning, which is something I’ll treasure.

My mom actually suggested one of my uncles walking me down the aisle. I was really suprised, as I figured she’d want to do it. But I think she knows I want that traditional image of the fatherly figure walking the bride down the aisle.

If you ever need to talk/vent about planning a wedding without your dad, feel free to PM me. We haven’t started much of the planning yet because our date is so far away, but I know it’s going to get hard when I have to think about certain aspects, and I can totally relate if you need someone to talk to.

Post # 21
3089 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This probably sounds weird, but it was very meaninful to us.  We danced our 1st song to my grandfather’s favorite song “unforgettable.”  When we were invited down by the DJ to begin our 1st song he mentioned that the song was a dedication to our loved ones.  All of our family know how close I was with my grandfather and so it was all understood…but we also had my father pass the november before the wedding.  So it was a tribute to all of our loved ones.

My husband and I danced to “our” song as a last dance, after everyone was escorted outside to prep for the sparkler exit.  We wanted to dance to “our” song in a more private space.

Again, I’m sure it sounds weird, but it really didn’t seem to upset the balance of anything.  And it was very important to us.

Post # 23
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

what about a tribute song “I’m already there” or something and have all the fathers that have daughers there dance together if it is not too painful for you.  Knowing your creating a memory all those daugher’s will chairish for years to come may help.  Or just have everyone sit that one out.  My father passed away 7 years ago, and I am debating on the father/daugher dance for every daughter there in his honor or just skipping it.  We will be having a dance. 

Post # 25
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Owl_Doctor:  My grew up with only my mom and so my Grandpa will be walking me down the aisle.  In place of the father/daughter dance we will be having a family dance – I will dance with my grandpa, my Fiance will dance with his mom and then about a minute into the song we are going to have the DJ ask for anyone related to us to join us on the dance floor for the remainder of the song.  

Post # 26
8414 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it would be sweet to dance with your mom. There was a bee on here who had a pic dancing with her mom and I thought it was sweet!

Post # 27
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I think memorial candles at the ceremony and reception are very nice touches for the wedding. Additionally, my dad wasn’t at our wedding so I walked down the aisle with my mom and grandfather.  We also danced to the same song she danced with my grandfather at her wedding.  The first half of the song it was my mom and I and then she switched off with my grandpa.

Post # 28
128 posts
Blushing bee

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@vorpalette:  I would feel and do the same. I think it’s really nice.


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