(Closed) both have my parents have past and is it wrong to have a memorial photos of them

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 4
18627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do whatever you would like to do.  I didn’t have memorial photos of my mother because it would have upset me but if you want it, it doesn’t matter what others think.  Yes people might be sad but hopefully they can channel it in a good way.

Post # 5
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it’s a WONDERFUL idea.

It’s admirable and seems an excellent fit for your wedding. It kind of makes it seem as thought they are there with you.

My Fiance both parents have passed away and I would like to use that idea. (Will need to ask him what he thinks though…lol)


I say go for it and If they ask about your parents just say they passed away and that is that.

Post # 6
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am having a photograph of my mother there so those that didn’t know her can see where I came from. My mum died just two years ago.

I don’t think it’s tacky, I think it is a very beautiful idea. My dad likes to light candles for my mum so I think we’ll have a photograph of her on a stand somewhere with a candle beside it.

Try to celebrate this new start in life with a happy approach remembering the blessings of your past – your parents wouldn’t want you to be sad, so let them see you celebrating life.


Post # 7
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I think memorial photos are very nice but I also think that . . . well, it’s a little weird that your future in-laws don’t know that your parents have passed away. How has this not come up in conversation? Why hasn’t your fiance mentioned this to them? It might be nice for them to know ahead of time so that there is no confusion or need for a difficult conversation the day of.

Post # 8
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@daybyday:  <-this.

I am having memorial photos of my grandfather, who I loved dearly, and Fiance is having one of his as well, so I think the photos are a beautiful idea with lots of meaning behind them.

However, the wedding day is not the day when your Future In-Laws need to find out about this, especially only by looking at said pictures. I don’t see how this could have not come up already.

Post # 9
3767 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I agree with others, memorial photos are not tacky in any way whatsover, however you do need to let your Future In-Laws know in advance.  Just slip it in to planning discussions if you can?

Post # 10
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

LOVE the idea, but be prepared to hear it talked about by those who dont know (which sounds like all of FI’s family). I just know that if we did something similar, my family would ask each other or my mom or dad what happened to the family members. It’s best that maybe your FI’s parents know so they can answer the question quickly without  causing rumors.


Post # 11
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. I think having a photo of them at your wedding is a wonderful idea. No one will get upset by it.

Post # 12
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You should absolutely include your parents in some way! Maybe bud vases and pictures on a memorial table? Or a picture and note in the program?

Post # 13
14052 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aboslutely!  We’re doing a memorial vase like this to remember family members who have passed away.  I think photos are a great touch. 

Post # 14
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

I think the memorial photos are a very sweet idea.  It’s not inappropriate at all.  You should do whatever makes you feel good and happy. 

Post # 15
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you have your parents’ wedding photo or album?  My husband’s father passed away about a year before our wedding.  I wanted to represent him there without it being too sad.  So, next to our guest book we displayed BOTH of our parents’ wedding albums and photos.  (We didn’t have a photo for his parents, but my dad scanned one from their album for us.)

I was surprised by how many people commented on what a good idea it was.  They had fun looking at all the old photos.

Post # 16
7305 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Most of Mr. LK’s family have passed on, including both of his parents, and we had photos of all of them in our cocktail hour space. We also had wedding photo albums from my parent’s wedding and Mr. LK’s parent’s wedding available for guests to look at. It was a great way for us to remember those important people in our lives who could not be with us that day. In fact, my maternal grandparents both died in the months leading up to our wedding, and it brought me a lot of comfort to see photos of them.

Post # 17
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@ElbieKay:  That’s a very sweet and sentimental idea 🙂

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