Post # 1
hello im 25 and we just got engaged last month all of the wedding thought and plan are going to be busy but my mom and dad are no longer alive to help us. and i have no one to walk me down the isle.:( my father died when i was 7 and my mother passed away when i was 11 i became ward of the government sent for foster home to foster home and im lost a wedding is suppose to be happy but im am deeply sadened lately about it because they are gone. So i was wondering is it tacky or upsetting to others if i have memorial photos of them at the reception since they can’t be there ?
None of the fiances family know how they died it is a very heart wrenching story andi don’t want them saying things like why isn’t her parents here is i have photo maybe they will understand a bit more. Im just lost in a way i need a bit of guidence .
Post # 3
I’m sorry about your parents not being able to be there on your big day =o( I think it’s a great idea to have memorial photos to show that they are there in spirit.
Post # 4
Do whatever you would like to do. I didn’t have memorial photos of my mother because it would have upset me but if you want it, it doesn’t matter what others think. Yes people might be sad but hopefully they can channel it in a good way.
Post # 5
I think it’s a WONDERFUL idea.
It’s admirable and seems an excellent fit for your wedding. It kind of makes it seem as thought they are there with you.
My Fiance both parents have passed away and I would like to use that idea. (Will need to ask him what he thinks though…lol)
I say go for it and If they ask about your parents just say they passed away and that is that.
Post # 6
I am having a photograph of my mother there so those that didn’t know her can see where I came from. My mum died just two years ago.
I don’t think it’s tacky, I think it is a very beautiful idea. My dad likes to light candles for my mum so I think we’ll have a photograph of her on a stand somewhere with a candle beside it.
Try to celebrate this new start in life with a happy approach remembering the blessings of your past – your parents wouldn’t want you to be sad, so let them see you celebrating life.
Post # 7
I think memorial photos are very nice but I also think that . . . well, it’s a little weird that your future in-laws don’t know that your parents have passed away. How has this not come up in conversation? Why hasn’t your fiance mentioned this to them? It might be nice for them to know ahead of time so that there is no confusion or need for a difficult conversation the day of.
Post # 8
I am having memorial photos of my grandfather, who I loved dearly, and Fiance is having one of his as well, so I think the photos are a beautiful idea with lots of meaning behind them.
However, the wedding day is not the day when your Future In-Laws need to find out about this, especially only by looking at said pictures. I don’t see how this could have not come up already.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I agree with others, memorial photos are not tacky in any way whatsover, however you do need to let your Future In-Laws know in advance. Just slip it in to planning discussions if you can?
Post # 10
LOVE the idea, but be prepared to hear it talked about by those who dont know (which sounds like all of FI’s family). I just know that if we did something similar, my family would ask each other or my mom or dad what happened to the family members. It’s best that maybe your FI’s parents know so they can answer the question quickly without causing rumors.
Post # 11
Wow, I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. I think having a photo of them at your wedding is a wonderful idea. No one will get upset by it.
Post # 12
You should absolutely include your parents in some way! Maybe bud vases and pictures on a memorial table? Or a picture and note in the program?
Post # 13
Aboslutely! We’re doing a memorial vase like this to remember family members who have passed away. I think photos are a great touch.
Post # 14
I think the memorial photos are a very sweet idea. It’s not inappropriate at all. You should do whatever makes you feel good and happy.
Post # 15
Do you have your parents’ wedding photo or album? My husband’s father passed away about a year before our wedding. I wanted to represent him there without it being too sad. So, next to our guest book we displayed BOTH of our parents’ wedding albums and photos. (We didn’t have a photo for his parents, but my dad scanned one from their album for us.)
I was surprised by how many people commented on what a good idea it was. They had fun looking at all the old photos.
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Most of Mr. LK’s family have passed on, including both of his parents, and we had photos of all of them in our cocktail hour space. We also had wedding photo albums from my parent’s wedding and Mr. LK’s parent’s wedding available for guests to look at. It was a great way for us to remember those important people in our lives who could not be with us that day. In fact, my maternal grandparents both died in the months leading up to our wedding, and it brought me a lot of comfort to see photos of them.