(Closed) both have my parents have past and is it wrong to have a memorial photos of them

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You could also say a prayer for them at the ceremony. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@Jenlon:  Thanks.  My husband also wore his dad’s cufflinks that day.  He and his dad were very close, and I really wish his dad could have been there.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL

Several very close members have passed on, including my mom and my grandparents, and FI’s grandfather. We will have both our grandparents’ wedding photos displayed in memory of them.

I will also have a tiny antique frame attached to my bouquet with my mom’s picture, and I handmade FI’s boutteniere with a photo charm of his grandfather.

So, no…its not tacky at all. And I understand that its difficult for you to talk about this with your future in-laws. Maybe your Fiance can let them know ahead of time, so that they don’t feel awkward if ask where your parents are.

 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I thought from your title that you meant they had done something in their past.I an sorry that your parents have passed away.I think your idea is great.Honor them however you like.I like the idea of an empty seat with a flower in their place.I have seen that at a wedding before.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@vonka:  NO WAY Girlie!!!! My mom passed away last year and my dad in 2009.  I got engaged a month ago.  People have told me not to over do it, because you don’t want to make it a sad day, you want to make it about the two of you and be a happy day.  But I def say do something in memory of them.  I think the pictures would be nice.  I am definetely doing something.  It has always been a dream to have my daddy give me away and to dance with him.  When I was a kid I use to look at songs to dance with him to.  I was so excited to plan with my mom.  But now I can’t.  Please message me if you want to talk.  I could even use the support.  I think we could help eachother through this process!!!!!!

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Little frames attached to your bouquet would be a great way to have your parents walk down the aisle with you. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I really doubt anyone would be rude enough to ask about how they died.  I think its a wonderful idea to include memorial pictures of them!  I am so sorry for your saddness, but I am sure they will be there with you in spirit 🙂

also I think the PP idea about the pics in the bouquet sounds so sweet!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry to hear about your parents.  I completely understand.  My mom had passed prior to my wedding. The pictures aren’t a bad idea.  For me, I didn’t want to do anything that would make me cry or become sad because of it.  I had a tiny frame attached to my flowers and put her pic in it so that I could be reminded that she was with me in spirit.  In the program, my Fiance and I put a little note that as the bridesmaids walked in, they’d be laying flowers on an empty seat (this is wear my mom would have been sitting) in memory of mom.  It was actually very pretty.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it would be lovely to have their wedding photo displayed if you have it.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

I am going through a similar situation, my father passed away a few years ago and I am longing to have some part of him be included in our special day.  I agree with the others – you don’t want to make it too sad for yourself, its a happy day for u and your Fiance.

I love the idea of the open chair with the flowers – I may steal that!

I am also planning on using my bonbonniere as a tribute to him.  Instead of having a bonbonniere I am planning on making a donation in honour of him to the Heart and Stroke Foundation (he died from a stroke).  You don’t have to pick a charity that represents how they died…maybe they loved animals and you want to make a donation to the SPCA…you can really do anything. 

It will be a hard day without them…I totally understand how much you long to have them there – as I sit here I am teary eyed thinking about my dad.  Stay strong and remember them in the way that is best for you…

good luck

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You could add a locket to your boquet, or wear one, with photos of your parents so you’re not walking down the aisle by yourself. 

 

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