(Closed) Both of my parents are deceased

posted 9 years ago in Music
  • poll: What would you do?

    Dance with your brother?

    Skip that part?

  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    This is a no-brainer… dance with your bro! I am sure he will be equally humbled by sharing a dance with you where normally his father would have been.

    I am very sorry to hear that both your parents won’t be there [in body] to share in your special day. But they will be there for sure in spirit. I just know it!

    Post # 4
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m sorry that your parents won’t be there; but having that dance, in my opinion, would be a nice addition to your wedding day. Do you have any song in mind for the dance?

     

     

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Do you feel awkward about having the dance be with your bro? Because you don’t HAVE to do that parent dance if you don’t want to, although I know you want to give your hubby the chance to dance with his mom. What if you danced with your new FIL? Just an idea…maybe that’s even more awkward! Also, maybe your new husband could dance with his mom not during an announced dance, but just during the reception…that way they’d get to dance together, but you’d be spared the moment highlighting the fact that your dad’s not there.

    Anyway, just some ideas. Basically I just wanted to say you don’t have to have the dance if it’s going to make you feel down… we skipped the parent dance at our wedding, and no one seemed to notice.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I too was going to ask how close you are to his parents. I’d either dance with your Father-In-Law, or with your brother.

    I’ve grappled with this too because my father passed away. I don’t know if Fiance will want to dance with his mom…but have considered just doing a “family dance.” I’d like to encourage other fathers to dance with their daughters (because I have fond memories of dancing with my dad) and I would either dance with my mom or Fiance during that dance.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Would you be less emotional if all eyes weren’t on you? That’s why I’m considering the “family dance.” I feel like it wouldn’t be as obvious that I’m not dancing with my dad and then I might not get so choked up.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Father-In-Law passed this last year too, so I think Fiance has a good enough understanding of why this part of the wedding is hard. I don’t want to “jip” him out of a dance with his mother, so I think we’ll either just end up doing a mothers’ dance, or just invite all family. He has 3 siblings and I have 10 nieces and nephews, so I’m hoping that many people will help distract me from being too emotional!

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I voted dance with your bro, but you don’t have to do the father/daughter dance.  You can still have the mother/son dance since you know it’s important to your FH.  My husband and his mother didn’t want to dance, so at my wedding, we just had a father/daughter dance and no mother/son dance.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    If you think a dance with your brother would be too emotional for you, a family dance would be nice, or even including the bridal party with you.  I know that your parents will be there in spirit. 

    Post # 14
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Dance with your bro.. IF you dont want to for whatever reason skip that part.. but that doesnt mean he couldnt have a mother son dance. Its your wedding, and you can do whatever you want to make it charecteristic of you two!!

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