(Closed) Both of My Parents are Deceased…

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i’m so sorry your parents can’t celebrate your wedding with you!

deceased parents can’t host weddings, so unfortunately their names don’t really belong on wedding invitations unless you use “the late” (even that usually isn’t used on the actual invite though).

a better place for their names is the programs.

Post # 4
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think the easiest solution would be to just have you and your Fiance on the invite itself then in the program maybe do a Thank you to both sets of parents for their love and support or something like that. 

Post # 5
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Can’t you do the traditional ….. Mr & Mrs Smith request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter Jill Smith?

I mean everyone will know they have passed away?  I don’t really see what the Etiquette Gods will have issue with.  Your parents are paying for it ….

Post # 6
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776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You could do something like this

“Sara Smith

Daughter of John & Jane Smith

&

Fiance’s Name

Son of Future Father-In-Law & Future Mother-In-Law

Cordially invite you to their wedding……”

Even thought your parents have passes away you are still their daughter, and this is not wording the invitation as though parents are inviting, its worded that you and you Fiance are inviting.

Also I am so so sorry for your loss ::hugs::!

Post # 7
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3576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. 

I’m a little torn on this one.  You’re using the money from your parent’s life insurance policies and retirement accounts to pay for your wedding.  So in a way, they really are the hosts even though they will not physically be there. 

I looked on the internet as well and most state what @kitzy said.  But if this is something you really want to do, I think you should do it. Just like you, though, I’m struggling with the wording. 

Post # 12
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720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Both of my parents are deceased as well.  I didn’t list either set of parents on the invitations but did in the programs.  I do like Lovespearls suggestion, however.  Good luck with everything.  I know how bittersweet major life events can be under these circumstances.  I thought I’d be a giant mess the day of the wedding but really did surprisingly well.  So happy you are going to have good in-laws, too!

Post # 13
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Lovespearls: I would do this!! but put LATE in their.

 

“Sara Smith

Daughter of the late John & Jane Smith

&

Fiance’s Name

Son of Future Father-In-Law & Future Mother-In-Law

Cordially invite you to their wedding……”

Post # 14
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1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

First of all very sorry for your loss. I think I would not list any parents on the invitations.As any way you word it comes off as kind of strange to me. And as other bees said a word of thanks on the programs instead.

Post # 15
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I totally understand why you want to have their names on the invitation.  They do NOT have to be hosting the event to be honored on the invites.  My FI’s mother is no longer with us, and we will be including her on the invites, because it feel like the right thing to do.  You just have to word it in the right way, and no one will think your deceased parents are the one’s inviting.  Here’s how to word it if you and your fiance are hosting.

Ms. Jessica Doe

daughter of the late Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

and

Mr. James Smith

son of Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Smith

request the pleasure of your comapny…. etc.

You and your fiance are hosting, you’re just honoring your parents by including their names on the invite.  I think it would be strange to NOT include them because other people might find it weird.

Post # 16
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803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i like using “beloved”

jessica doe

daughter of the beloved Mr and Mrs John Doe

and James mathew smith

son of so and so

request the pleasure of your company…

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