Both parents names on the invites?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

If your parents are hosting then just put your parents. You can thank them for putting your husband on this earth during the speeches

Post # 3
13787 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The names on the invitation are the hosts.  If your inlaws are sharing the hosting duties, then their names should go on.  If your parents are the hosts, it would be them.

On mine, we just listed my parents as the hosts, but we listed as Darling Husband as “son of X and Y Last Name” so their names were at least on it. 

Post # 5
47255 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

readybeeone2three :  The invitation is worded to indicate who is hosting. There is nothing wrong however, with being gracious and putting “son of” following the groom’s name.

The rehearsal dinner invitation traditionally doesn’t open with the hosts’ names, but it is not wrong if they choose to do so. Because the wedding invitations have already been received, and the rehearsal dinner invitations are being sent ony to people very close to the couple, there is no preceived need to mention the parents again.

Post # 7
12498 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

It is up to you, but hosting is not just about who pays and the honors are not now and never have been for sale to the highest bidder. 

Both of our parents were involved with our wedding and attended to their guests as hosts throughout the weekend, but even if we were paying or one set gave more than the other we would have given both of them hosting honors. 

Unless you are doing a “together with their families” type of thing  “son of” is the very minimum I’d do. Years ago everyone knew who the parents of the groom were. That’s no longer true. 

I would do what feels right to you and not worry about what they do for the rehearsal dinner. 

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