Post # 1
I am wondering what the proper etiquette is when it comes to the verbiage on the wedding invitations. Is it just my parents names as they are hosting or do we include the grooms parents as well? I am okay with adding them in somewhere as they are the reason my wonderful man is on this earth, however I kind of doubt they will put my parents on the rehearsal dinner invites which they are handling on their own. Any advice?
Post # 2
If your parents are hosting then just put your parents. You can thank them for putting your husband on this earth during the speeches
Post # 3
The names on the invitation are the hosts. If your inlaws are sharing the hosting duties, then their names should go on. If your parents are the hosts, it would be them.
On mine, we just listed my parents as the hosts, but we listed as Darling Husband as “son of X and Y Last Name” so their names were at least on it.
Post # 4
I read about doing the ‘son of’ option and I like that a lot it’s def what I’m leaning towards! I just fear that fmil may be kind of sensitive or weird about it. I know if it really doesn’t matter one way or another I should just list it as together with, but I kind of wanted who was hosting which event to be specified if that makes sense.
Post # 5
readybeeone2three : The invitation is worded to indicate who is hosting. There is nothing wrong however, with being gracious and putting “son of” following the groom’s name.
The rehearsal dinner invitation traditionally doesn’t open with the hosts’ names, but it is not wrong if they choose to do so. Because the wedding invitations have already been received, and the rehearsal dinner invitations are being sent ony to people very close to the couple, there is no preceived need to mention the parents again.
Post # 6
That makes sense I wasn’t sure the format for rehearsal invitations at all but I’m sure fmil will organize that whichever way she wants.
Post # 7
It is up to you, but hosting is not just about who pays and the honors are not now and never have been for sale to the highest bidder.
Both of our parents were involved with our wedding and attended to their guests as hosts throughout the weekend, but even if we were paying or one set gave more than the other we would have given both of them hosting honors.
Unless you are doing a “together with their families” type of thing “son of” is the very minimum I’d do. Years ago everyone knew who the parents of the groom were. That’s no longer true.
I would do what feels right to you and not worry about what they do for the rehearsal dinner.