- Miss Mitzie
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
Ugh… This is probably going to be semi long, but I need to vent and see if anyone else has been in my position. I am less than 3 months away from marrying a man who is everything I could have dreamed about and more. I could go on and on about how great he is. Sure sometimes we bicker/argue, but our relationship is solid, and good. Up until about 2 weeks ago I couldn’t wait for Dec. 3 and my walk down the aisle. All my planning is done, everything is paid for… Alterations are the only thing I have left to do. Then I got a call from my mom. Her husband had cheated on her with an employee/long-time friend of hers. Like this woman used to babysit me while I was growing up, then after I was old enough partied with me…. I was in shock that this happened, and what makes it worse is that it happened 2 years ago. I guess they decided to work through it… My brother and I never got wind of it, which is amazing since my mom lives in a small town where everyone knows everyone else’s business. My step-brother died this past January, he had 2 little girls. My mom and her husband fought for custody of them because their mom doesn’t exactly have the best lifestyle. After this happened I guess her husband started cheating again… I got a phone call from my dad a few days before my mom called me telling me that he had seen her husband at a local bar with another much younger woman… I didn’t know what to do so I talked to my brother and we decided that since we didn’t know the deal that we wouldn’t say anything, because our dad is known to make things seem worse than what they are… Then my mom calls and tells me that she is getting a divorce and told me about the old cheating, and the knew… I don’t remember exactly what I said, and but I didn’t sound shocked, she asked if I knew something. I told her what my dad had told me, and I felt like such a horrible person, because not only was there one girl, but at least two. I feel really bad for my mom, but it didn’t make me question my wedding other than worrying if I shouldn’t talk to her about it very much….
Last night, I was on facebook and saw that my dads long time girlfriend/fiance changed her relationship status to single…. My first thought was that it was an accident because she doesn’t really use facebook very often so might not have known what she was doing. I decided to call my dad because I haven’t talked to him recently and to make sure that things were ok. I couldn’t get an answer on the house phone or his cell so I called my little brother to find out what he knew. My brother had went to a local highschool football game with his girlfriend last Friday night to watch her little brother play. Afterwards they decided to stop in my moms bar and get a drink before they went home. My dad was in there talking to the local drunk and tossing back drinks. At some point they left to smoke a joint (yeah my dad the hippie I guess) and came back and continued to drink. They started talking to a group of women, and the other guy leaves to go to bed. My dad walked to my brothers group and told him “that girl right there wants to suck my… (you know)”. My brother told him it was a bad idea, reminded him about his fiance, offered to take him him, my dad basically told him to shut up and went back to the women, and walks out with one of them a minute later. My brother followed him out and before he could say anything my dad said “I’m giving you one chance to go back inside”….. My brother wasn’t going to fight my dad, so did just that. The next morning my brother gets a call from my dads fiance. She came home from working midnight shift to find that woman half naked on her couch with some of her clothes on the floor, my dads clothes on the floor and him naked in their bed…..
So now I am freaking out… I know its super super selfish but I wish this all could have happened after my wedding. These are men that I love and used to respect acting this disgusting…. Now there is this feeling of dread in my chest wondering if Fiance will ever do this to me, and guilt that while my parents are going through all this emotional drama I am getting ready for a wedding and it is really depressing me. I love my fiance with all my heart and he is an amazing guy…. I want to marry him, but I don’t want to wind up divorcing because of some unforseen future event….
Does anyone have any advice on getting over this. I mean there is no reason I shouldn’t get married because other people have problems right????