(Closed) Both parents walking down the aisle..

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who would you prefer to walk you down the aisle?

    Dad- stick with tradition

    Mom

    Both

    Other

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I had my Dad walk me down the aisle, then once I joined my husband, my Mom stood up and they both stood with me while they “gave me away” (except we worded it like “who supports her decision” rather than giving permission). Maybe that would work for you?

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

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    hunterk1990: I had both my parents walk me down the aisle.  So did my sister.  I feel like there should be more to honour the Mother of the Bride than tradition allows for.  My mom stayed home and raised 5 kids, and my dad worked a lot, and so they both contributed to raising us in different ways.  They both should have recognition.

    Sorry to hear that you’re dad’s not happy with it.  Maybe just reassure him about the father/daughter dance.

    Just my two cents!  

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee

    Do whatever you want for yourself. He should understand that you were raised by both of them, and he can be happy to even be there to walk you, even though someone else has your other arm 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    hunterk1990:  My mom and dad walked me down the aisle. It was fabulous and a great way to highlight the importance of both of my parents and the great support and love we share between us. It also made for some fabulous photos and memories I’ll have forever.

    Post # 6
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I plan to have my mom and dad walk me down the aisle. I haven’t talked to my dad about it, so I am unsure if he would feel the same way your dad does…hmmm. I guess I should talk to him about that.

    I think it is a good idea to honor both of your parents!

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee

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    hunterk1990:  Honestly, I think moms get the shaft when it comes to weddings.  They raise their daughters just as much (often more so) than the fathers, and they get very little recognition at weddings.  The dad gets the walk down the aisle and a special dance.  I think it’s very nice of you to recognize your mom by having them both walk you down the aisle.  I would tell your dad it’s not taking anything away from him, but giving your mom the recognition she equally deserves.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee

    I would love for both of my parents to walk me down the aisle. Does anyone know if this is an issue in the Catholic church?

    My parents are both slighty more traditional than I am so when the time comes I will see what they prefer.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    That’s kind of obnoxious of your dad.  It’s the 21st century!  Weddings aren’t just about the father giving his daughter away to the new man in charge of her life.  I had both my parents walk me down the aisle and I loved it.  Stick to your guns.  He still gets the dance, as you said.

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    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA

    I had both parents walk me down the aisle, since they both raised me and I wanted to honor my mom.  

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I insisted to have them both walk me down… my mom and dad feel weird about it and I told them I want them to be with me because they both equally important to me…

     

    it was hard though as I had my wedding in a historical church…so the aisle isn’t too roomy but we manged  it 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI

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    hunterk1990:  I had both my parents walk me down the aisle, but if you’re looking for other options, I had my Mother-In-Law hold the rings during the ceremony (we didn’t have a bridal party or ring bearer), and hold my boquet during the ring ceremony. I wanted both sides to feel involved so that was something simple but meaningful to them they could do during the ceremony. 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    They both raised me, so it felt right to have both walk me down the aisle.  Plus I wanted my mom to have some kind of involvement since my dad got to give the welcome speech and have a dance with me.

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    Post # 15
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    Busy bee

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    georgetownbee:  Not an issue at all in the Catholic church.  In fact (as I learned on the bee! and later validated) the truly traditional Catholic ceremony has the bride and groom walking in together – the dad walking the bride down the aisle is more of an American tradition.

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