Post # 1
I have heard that typically, people look to the mother of the bride for a cue as to when they should stand up for the entrance of the bride. When the MOB stands and turns, they know to stand up and turn, too. When she sits back down, they all sit back down.
I am having both my mom and dad walk me down the aisle, though, so my mom won’t be up there to stand and give people that cue. We are also not using the traditional wedding music that people expect to hear when the bride comes in, so the guests may not recognize the bridal entrance based on our music selection alone. I was thinking that I might have the mother of the groom stand up instead, to give people that cue that the bride is about to enter.
What do you think? Anyone else in a similar situation?
Post # 3
Both of my parents walked me down the aisle and everyone was standing. I think the cues to stand came from our officiant, as well as when the music changed. (Maybe your musicians could raise the volume a bit for you as a signal?)
Post # 4
your officiant can say “please rise.” i’ve never heard of looking at the MOB for cues.
Post # 5
Based on all of the weddings I’ve been to, people generally follow along with the program… so if your program says you have 5 bridesmaids, after the 5th bridesmaid, people stand. Also, at a lot of venues, the doors at the base of the aisle shut after the last Bridesmaid or Best Man and re-open after a slight pause to reveal the bride and her escort(s). Either way, people are going to be turned, looking at the base of the aisle for the entire processional. They’ll know what they’re supposed to do when.
Post # 6
Your officiant can give a hand signal to the congregation to rise.
You could certainly also have the MOG stand.
Post # 7
I’ve never looked to the mother of the bride for a cue when to stand. It’s pretty clear when the wedding party stops coming through the doors and you see the bride standing there or there’s a pause. I’ve also been to many weddings where both parents walk the bride down the aisle and everyone always stood at the correct time. In short, I don’t think you have to worry about this.
Post # 8
Never heard of that before. At a recent wedding I attended the mom walked the bride down the aisle because the father had passed away. The music changed so we all knew it was time to stand… Or you can have the officiant announce that guests should stand.
Post # 9
I’ve never heard of looking at the MOB either. Plus almost every wedding I’ve been to people usually know when to stand, even if the music is different. My cousin is deaf and she opted to have no music played at her wedding and we all still knew when to stand :).
Post # 10
K, thanks everyone. Maybe I was just being a little worried over nothing. The more I think about it, it really wouldn’t be the end of the world if no one stood, anyway.
Post # 11
In a Jewish wedding, both the mother and father walk the bride down the aisle. In every wedding I’ve attended, you just know to stand…and, again, the music changes…and well, you SEE the bride…you know to stand. Nothing to fret over.
Post # 12
Guests in general are WAY more intelligent and observant than brides give them credit for. Most guests use the cue of the last bridesmaid entering to let them know that the bride is making her entrance, regardless if a relative on the bride’s side stands up first or not. Also, the bride usually has her own entrance song that guests are able to pick up. As a guest, I have never once heard any officiant tell guests to rise for the bride.