Bothered by future BIL and SIL… and I don't want to change plans for them.

posted 8 months ago in Emotional
Post # 16
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Bee, unfortunately, I think since they are engaged before you and actively planning , they do get first dibs on the summer date if they want that. Though it would be nice (and I would do it), they probably won’t consider what you may or may not want for yourselves. Even if they did get engaged just to “jump the gun” and reserve the summer date before you (and I believe you that they might have done this), the fact still remains that they are planning right now and you are not. Don’t worry, it will all work out. Try not to get stressed in advance.

Post # 17
14703 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You’re makign way too many assumptions and worry about nothing at the moment.  Deal with it when/if it happens.  If you dont want to change plans, then dont.  They dont have to.  You don’t have to either.  If you wanna beat them to the punch, tell your Boyfriend or Best Friend to hurry up and propose so you can beat them to booking something?

Post # 18
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Just wait a few months. Once you’re engaged, they would have hopefully set a date and then you can plan your date and honeymoon around that. It’s not a big deal to have both this coming summer!

Post # 19
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - City, State

Sansa85 :  when I talked about bust size double d it also became dirty delete. That was funny!

Post # 20
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

Um….you’re not even engaged yet. They are and will probably pick a date first. You have plenty of other days from which to choose, so I don’t see a problem here other than you being needlessly dramatic. Accept the things you cannot change. 

Post # 21
7381 posts
Busy Beekeeper

browneyedgirl24 :  

Couldn’t agree more , if it is out there to  other people ,  as in “when they got word of my Boyfriend  preparing to propose ” ( tho wtf, ‘preparing ‘ for months,  and in any case other people knowing it…? .) why not just do it , annnounce it and start planning ! 

Post # 22
1851 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

beachyoutoit32 :  ummm it’s his BROTHER, of course you’re going to have to plan around their schedule so that you can go to / be in his wedding. Just like they will have to plan their summer plans around your schedule to go to / be in your wedding. That’s what being family is all about. I’m sure you can find some time to have a nice honeymoon as well. You need to chill a bit girl. 

Post # 23
3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Sansa85 :  someone mentioned their “DD” boobs in a dress post and it turned into Dirty Delete boobs hahaha. I was like wtf kind of boobs are those???

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