(Closed) Boudoir as a Wedding Present

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m doing one for my Fiance. He goes out of town a lot for work, so I want to give him something that he can take with him to remind him of what’s waiting for him at home.

He’s asked me for a while to send him sexy pics, but I’d rather have pro quality ones than something I just snap myself.

I will also be getting him a kilt made with his family tartan.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i did boudoirs and gave them as a wedding present. he didn’t get me anything but we had already said we weren’t doing gifts, so i wasn’t expecting anything anyway and certainly wasn’t disappointed – i loved seeing the look on his face!

we’re a long distance couple and only see each other maybe one weekend a month so he loved them. he really doesn’t have the “real thing” there with him, so for our situation especially it was a great gift idea.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

These things differ from couple to couple.  It’s hard to say who got the raw end of the deal (and kind of premature to judge), when both items are thoughtful gifts from a loving partner.  In perspective, a pair of diamond earrings could be thought of too impersonal?  It really depends on the personality of each partner.  If boudoir is not your thing, don’t do it~

I don’t see anything wrong about having mementos of your youth that both of you could appreciate (all the while STILL loving your body as you age). 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Fiance is always asking for sexy pics- seriously this is a guy’s fantasy to have pics of his woman. You will not always be together every day, and it’s great for him to have something of you to fantasize as opposed to alternatives…

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I gave my Darling Husband a boudoir book a watch.  He liked the watch but LOVED the book.  He was so into it and blushing and telling me how awesome the pictures are.  I think he liked the idea that I went to such great lengths for him to do the book, (as opposed to the watch which I just ordered on line).

I love the idea that when I’m old and saggy I have that book to document how hot I once was.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@metalbride:  I’m in the same boat! I wanted to do this for Christmas or my FI’s birthday in Jan, but I’m also working on loosing some weight and am not where I would like to be.  My Fiance is going to be gone all of Dec, except for christmas, some of Jan and probably all of Feb and possibly longer to North Carolina for work…  And even if my Fiance didn’t have to go on such extensive work trips I still probably would have a boudoir session.  It’s a nice momento of this time in your life (as long as my future kids NEVER find it!) 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@fembride045: Of course you are welcome to an opinion, but when you preface with “no offense” that usually implies the opposite. I was offering my perspective on your position against boudoir as a wedding gift, engaging in discussion if you will, and find it pretty rude and rather snappy of you to insinuate that I am being condescending.  Perhaps it is the way you framed the question that calls for many brides to become defensive (take a look at the replies).

Asking for opinions (as you say you are) should ellicit answer with depth and explanation to further discussion. When you’re simply saying “it’s weird” without elaborating, I find that judgemental. 

I would’ve liked to see your suggestions on alternative gifts (what you were considering giving your Fiance on the wedding day) or even explore further WHY you feel weird about boudoir images on the wedding day?

Is it because it is boudoir, or is it because in your opinion, it is not a good enough gift on the wedding day (as say, a pair of diamond earrings)? Also, have you asked your hubby how he feels about it? (Not asking you to answer, but you said “I think”.)

 

Post # 11
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I love the idea, I might be doing this as a gift for my fiance

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I did a boudoir shoot for Darling Husband…I also got him a Coach wallet, groom’s cake/custom topper, and custom cufflinks.

I didn’t want to give him only the photos and he knew I was taking the pictures so I wanted him to have a surprise gift as well.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I started off doing a boudoir shoot for my future hubby, because I knew he’d love it and because we will only get to see each on weekends until we move to a new city next summer. But really, it turned into something for myself. I’ve struggled with self-esteem and body image since I was a kid, and worked really hard to lose weight and get in shape, but I was still really self-conscious. Doing the pictures made me feel amazing, and it was such a boost for my self-esteem, one which I badly needed. So it was almost like a present for me too 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m doing one for my Fiance, because it’s more than just something to look at. I have horrible, horrible self-esteem issues, and I never let anyone take my picture, and we usually fight over my camera because I’m trying to delete pictures he has taken of me. It’s kind of me acknowledging that he thinks there is something special about me, even if I have trouble seeing it.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m pretty sure I’m going to do boudoir photos as a gift for Fiance.  I just really like the idea of giving him some smokin’ hot photos of myself in excellent lighting and with cellulite and blotchy skin conveniently erased, and that’s pretty much all there is to it.  😀

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