(Closed) Boudoir photos if you’re painfully shy?

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
3 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

What about having a drink before you take them? My photographer offered me a drink when I got mine done.

Post # 4
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I haven’t gotten mine back yet, so I don’t know how they came out!

BUT, I really loved the experience. I wouldn’t call myself “painfully” shy, but I am definitely quieter and not extroverted and certainly not the type to ham it up in front of strangers in my skivvies. I think it’s important that you find the right photographer–meet with them first if you can. It’s important that you find someone who matches “you” and understands how to work with you. Know that most pros know that the average woman is a) a little shy and embarrassed about doing boudoir b) not happy with all or parts of her body and therefore are pros at working with those things. And they will defer to you and your comfort level–if it’s not your thing to walk around the room topless, then they’ll shoot you laying comfortably on the bed in a white button-down if you want. Find a photographer with whom you feel comfortable telling them exactly what your issues are, someone to whom you can say, “You know, I’m a shy person and I need a photographer who understands that and can help me feel comfortable or bring me out a little more.”

I highly recommend doing boudoir FOR YOURSELF (ie, it’s great that your SO gets the pics, but don’t do it JUST for him!)–ie, to give yourself a little boost. I’ve never been all that excited about my looks, but when I went to do my shoot, I didn’t feel like Cindy Crawford all of a sudden–I just felt like it was good to be ME–cellulite legs, ponchy stomach, shy personality and all. That, to me, is the point of doing boudoir 🙂

Post # 5
2427 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh man…I am SUPER shy when it comes to this sort of thing.  The only thing that got me through it was knowing how much Darling Husband would love the photos!  I think having a good connection with your photographer helps too.  Mine was nice, but not exactly outgoing…and I feel like for this kind of shoot, you have to have an outgoing/makes you feel at ease type of personality. 

Post # 6
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Due to shyness and expense, I decided to just diy them. Of course they weren’t as good as pro’s, but they did come out pretty good, and it was no stress for me. I just set the tripod up and did my thing! Then I made a little photobook out of them.

Post # 7
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I never felt the need to do them.  It just didn’t seem like something I wanted to do – only do them if You want to.  I know they’re often a gift but do whats best for you!

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