(Closed) Boudoir shoot – anyone bummed out?

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i havent done them, but plan to for our one year (still so far away! haha i’ve only been married 2 months) but first anniversary is paper so why not right? i wanted to do them before the wedding but just didnt have time.

i think as women we are just too hard on ourselves. i am excited to do them, but at the same time i hope her photoshop skills are amazing because she will need them to make me look flawless.

im sure you will look fantastic in the finished product. i never like myself in pictures so i can only imagine seeing myself in revealing pictures…

chin up! i know you Fiance will love them even if you dont feel you look beautiful. which im sure you do !

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My other half is a photographer so yes, this happens to me a lot! Even with good direction (I’m not a natural model), I often don’t like what I see at the end.

Beware of seeing pictures on small screens (camera screens or phones) – I reviewed our most recent set of pics on my phone a couple of days ago and was really down about them; now I’ve seen them on the computer, there are a few really nice gems hidden in there!

Also, remember that a photographer takes lots of photos to get one good shot. Typically my OH takes 50-60 pics of one look and will eventually process one or two of them. (It can be as few as 20, as many as 100, depending on what he’s doing.)

Don’t worry about it – I’m sure you’ve got some really nice shots!

RainStorm. xx

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I am thinking of getting some, but I’m so scared! I am super hard on myself. Maybe if I lose 15 pounds and a lot of photoshopping is done it would be okay. . .

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I sort of felt that way at first.  I guess I was hoping that the inner sex bomb would come out but since I’m not one the photos showed me, which I’m grateful for now.  Honestly I’d wait till your SO sees them.  SO will be blown away and all that worry will go away.  I almost didnt share mine becuase I wasnt sure about them but he loved them.  Still talking about them.  I think once you get that reaction you will feel differently

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@techie:  I know how you feel – I loved the quality of the pictures and I loved my hair/makeup, but I only found about 5 of the 200 pictures that I would even want to share…

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know what you mean! I loved my photographer, but I did a marathon day and so we didn’t have all the time in the world. There was a hair and makeup artist there, and I don’t think she really got what I wanted right. Because of that the pics turned out more sweet than sexy, and that was disappointing to me. The good thing about photos, though, is that you can always take more!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have them scheduled in May or June, and I’m a little bit in a panic. I wish I was in better shape. Oh well!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@techie:  I feel the exact same way!!!  I thought I was the only one.  I just did mine yesterday, and all the photos that the photographer showed me that she said she loved.. I HATE.  Not the style or lighting or quality, … i hate all of them mainly because I hate the way I look in photos.  It was such an emotional bomb to come out of and realize that the sexy bombshell I thought I could be… well I can’t.  The self-esteem boost I was hoping for didn’t happen – my photographer was excellent, but my body and face. lol.  not so much!

 

I think maybe we put a little too much hope in the photos?  Count on them to boost our esteem?  We should both definitely wait until we give them to our future husbands and see their reaction?  They are the ones that love us for who we are!! 

 

I told myself in 10 years I’ll do the same poses etc just to prove to myself how much they worked this time!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You know now that I think about it…

I did some boudoir shots for friends (I have a photography degree) and one of the best tricks I found was to crop the eyes and nose out…the entire top of the face…so that just the lips and below show… And shoot it really dark. That makes women like their own photos more. It’s almost like we have to see it as another person, and not as ourselves?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MrsDulce: Interesting thought! It’s almost as if, without your own face looking back at you, you can really SEE your bod, whereas when you can see the face you can’t appreciate your photo objectively.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@techie:  I hope you end up loving your shots.  Come back and let us know!  I’ll find out by the end of the week if I’m brave enough to actually give it to my fiance.  They might just end up in the bottom of a drawer somewhere!!

@MrsDulce:  That is exactly what my photographer suggested for some of the shots… take out the eys and nose (or just they eyes)!

 

 

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