(Closed) Boudoir update: hated them

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 4
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Nothing you stated above sounds like the fault of the photographer..

You sound very much like me. Something tells me your pictures turned out wonderful and you just don’t see it 🙁 I’m sorry you had a bad experience though. But seriously.. stop being so darn hard on yourself! We all think we have issues, but the majority of the time it’s only in your head. I wish we could see the pictures, I know you had to of looked gorgeous!

Post # 5
1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BCPDmrs:  I agree with this…you sound so insecure 🙁 Wish you could see yourself in a more beautiful way!

Post # 6
1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am sorry you feel this way.

Allow me to commend you for being so brave though. I love that you did this to get over your fears.

Post # 8
732 posts
Busy bee

I’m sensing a tone of anger towards the photographer, and I think that’s unfair. None of these things are the photographer’s fault, and it’s not in her job description to figure out ways to hide the flaws you want hidden. It’s just not.

Post # 9
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@futuremrskgt:  But it is her job. If she’s claiming to be a professional photographer, her job is to find the most flattering poses to please the client. 

This client stated she had a problem with her arms and the photographer seemed to ignore that or make a statement that photoshop will take care of it anyway.

I apologize and I’m sure she’s a nice woman and everything, but a true professional would be able to hide what needs to be hidden and accentuate all the right assets.

Photography isn’t just about pictures.  You can give a babboon a camera and even he can take flattering pictures. But it take a professional and an artist to create something beautiful that the client will be happy with.

 To the OP, I’m sorry that was a horrible experience for you. The boudoir photography is supposed to be fun and playful and it’s terrible that you didn’t get to experience any of that.

Post # 10
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissFireFlower:  I am honestly so angry reading this. I don’t care if she lost money because it was a Groupon – she chose to do the Groupon deals and it doesn’t mean her service should suffer. I am so angry that she chose to do what she wanted for her portfolio rather than deliver what you wanted! You should’ve been able to find AT LEAST 10 decent pictures. Things like the areas you dislike about yourself being in almost every shot and your veil being on backwards and giving you a double chin – these are all issues the photographer has caused. I read the last thread and it seems like she has no idea how to give direction or to make someone feel comfortable – which I think both are so important in a boudoir shoot!

Big hugs and I hope your self-confidence isn’t too shaken, but really if this happened to me I would be incredibly upset too.

Post # 12
541 posts
Busy bee

Did she shoot and edit the pics all in one session while you were there? She should have had a set of unedited original pics, and a set of edited  pics that includes photoshopping. Every human on earth can use a little touch up here or there, she doesn’t have to edit you into a complete new person. And her comment was totally uncalled for. The illusion of a double chin comes from her shooting below you. She sounds very amateur.  I suspect that her other photos are fairly amateur looking too, and with the combination of how we are always our own worst critic, I think you are seeing something way worse than whats there, even though I suspect she could use some more practice, hence why she’s using groupon.

Post # 14
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Why’d you let her use them if you think they’re awful???

There is no way I’d let any photog use a pic of me that was bad, much less a boudior shot!!!

And dear Lord…. why no photoshop?!?!  EVERYONE is photoshopped.  don’t compare yourself to pics of other people.  They are photoshopped!

Post # 16
8169 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@futuremrskgt:  “it’s not in her job description to figure out ways to hide the flaws you want hidden” — of course it is! It is absolutely a boudoir photographer’s job to know how to use poses, props, clothes, lighting, soft focus, etc to get flattering shots that emphasize the positive and de-emphasize what the subject has specifically stated as a negative. 

MissFireFlowerI’m sorry you’re so disappointed. It took a lot of courage to even do the shoot, and I am sure the photos are not as bad as you think. We’re all our own worst critic. 

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