Post # 32
I personally think generally guys don’t really like being given things like this because of their male ego. (totally sexist, but they all have one to an extent) My Fiance thinks of all women on the same level as him (even above because he is really humble) but when I mentioned getting a promise ring for him, he refused. He bought me one, and I wore it until I got engaged, but jewelry just isn’t his thing and he thought promise rings were for girls. If your boyfriend doesn’t have a problem wearing jewelry, and doesn’t have it stuck in his head it’s for girls only, then I don’t think there should be a problem and people shouldn’t judge you guys for a decision you made in your relationship. I know people have judged me for having had a promise ring as an adult, but I don’t care. My Fiance wasn’t about to drop thousands of dollars on an engagement ring when we’d only been together two weeks. We knew we were meant to be at that point and we wanted something to symbolize our commitment.
And edit: I’m a teenager still. I’m 19. Guess that means I have to go find a teen forum. Shouldn’t she be classified as a waiting bee? In my state (NY) she’s the legal age to marry so if she wanted to she could…
Post # 33
Okay, I’m going to try to be as gentle as possible because I don’t want to come off as snarky or condescending when that’s not my intent. I have a bit of experience with teenagers as I taught highschool for many years. You did ask in your original post if this was weird, and to me, yes, it’s a bit…much. I looked through some of your old posts and many are about rings and teengers getting married. I just think that a 16 year old boy might be a bit…scared…at someone who is so gung-ho for commitment and marriage at such a young age. I don’t think it’s weird per se to want to give him something, but an engaved set of matching rings is a bit much.
This is just an older bee’s (late 30s) opinion. If you think he would like this, then go for it. But if you havent spoken to him about it, be forewarned that he may not feel comfortable wearing it.
Post # 34
Im not getting matching rings. It is one for him. Everyone is talking about how a teenage boy would be afraid of the committment blah blah blah, when he is constantly bringing up our future and marriage etc. I didnt come on here to be judged for my relationship and for being a teenager, because all of you have been there before. We have been together two years and from my area promise rings and teen marriage are common. I already ordered it so there is no going back and I didnt want to get attacked.
Post # 35
Your exact question was, “I bought my boyfriend a promise ring, is that weird?” You can’t get angry if people tell you that yes, they think it’s weird. If you’ve already bought it, other peoples’ opinions really don’t matter at this point.
Post # 36
OP, you asked if people thought it was weird. People are going to answer that question whether it’s the answer you’re looking for or not. I’m sorry you feel attacked. I don’t think anyone is attacking you–just answering your question with their opinions.
Post # 37
I don’t think it’s weird, especially since you’ve already talked about it and it’s not the first piece of jewelry you’ve gotten him (: My Fiance and I have been together since we were 17 and he gave me my promise ring for my 18th birthday/our first Valentine’s Day together. Lots of people told us it was just puppy love, but we’re getting married in June a few weeks before our 6th anniversary.
Post # 38
I totally bought matching rings for myself and my boyfriend when I was 17 or so. So I don’t think it’s weird, but in all fairness, we split up fairly soon afterwards. Forever has a different meaning for a teenager then it does for an adult. I think it’s cute and harmless.
Post # 39
Cute in a I’m in high school and I have puppy love type of way. But really you would get better opinions if you find a teen website instead of one dedicated to weddings, marriage, and nesting (babies).
Post # 40
My SO actually got me a promise ring a year and a half into our relationship, which was the summer after our high school graduation so we were 17 going on 18. It was kind of a tradition in our circle of friends to give your gf a ring after that amount of time, so I don’t find it very weird when I hear other of people around that age doing it. Now that I’m older, I don’t quite subscribe to the whole idea anymore and wouldn’t suggest giving a promise ring to someone post high school, but since you’re still 16/17 I say go for it. And if your boyfriend is cool with it, that’s pretty much all that matters in the end.
Post # 41
When I was in high school, my bf and I had matching bracelets like you mentioned you guys have. I don’t think I would have bought him a promise ring, even though we thought we were headed towards marriage. We ended up going our separate ways, but I think as long as you are using the ring as a sign of commitment rather than a pre engagement ring then its fine.
Post # 43
… what do you think his guy friends and family are going to say to him if he wore that?
Post # 44
I don’t think it’s weird, just silly